Wednesday, 31 December 2014

No Template to Life!

Farewell - 2014! 

If ever there was a year when life just didn't go my way, to the extent that no damage control could turn things around, it was 2014. I started off on a very bad note, I hated being me and I never thought I would actually make it to the end. I had suicidal thoughts at some point, I wanted to just starve myself to death, YES! it was that bad. To make things worse, I vowed I wouldn't share my troubles with anyone, not even my parents, family or friends. I threw tantrums at God, I felt so betrayed and I wasn't willing to accept His will at first. That's when I decided I would start a blog and just write my mind out and God being God, used this very idea to speak to me. The more I shared on the blog, the more I began to accept God's will and understand that whatever God allows to happen in our lives, is always for our good and for His glory. 

As the year progressed, I decided I wouldn't actually make any plans for my life but instead just wait on the Lord, allow him to lead, order and provide, and this was the best decision I have ever made in my life. 

I admit, being home for a year and not having any plans came with it's challenges. I had people asking me 'how school is' or 'when I was going back to school' or 'if I was working somewhere' or 'why I was just sitting on my degree and not actually using it' or 'what plans I had for my life.' I would get frustrated sometimes, it felt as if this wasn't home cause people expected me not to be home. However the answer which always worked with all the questions was that, 'I am waiting on the Lord' and surely I was waiting on the Lord. 

Towards the end of the year, when God had revealed the bigger picture, only then, did I realize why I had to be home this year. In addition to that, I became closer to my family, I met a lot of great people, I made new friends, I restored some broken friendships, I learnt how to cook better and bake. 

Moral of the story: Though the year started with some humbling experiences, overally I can say 2014 was a great year. I really did enjoy myself. The greatest lesson I will carry over to 2015 is that 'there is no template to life.' You can make plans, YES! You can have a 5 paged list worth of New Year's Resolutions with a step by step guide on how you will achieve them BUT bare in mind that God's will, will always prevail and be ready to accept whatever God brings your way. 

Stay faithful!

Tuesday, 23 December 2014

Things you should NEVER say to a Single Girl!

Being that girl, that literally used to relationship hop, the decision to stay happily single and faithfully wait on the Lord, was made possible only through continued prayer. I will not lie to you and say, it is a walk in the park, I sure had my days when I would throw tantrums at God. I would whine and complain about how my then 'crush' never even paid attention to me. In addition to my self inflicted 'misery', the words people would say, like literally vomit out, made the situation worse. So I decided I would write a blog post on the things you should never say to a single sister.  

  1. Honey, aren't you dating anyone?? Don't ask this question. Ask what the Lord is doing in her life. Ask about her future goals. Ask about her family or her job or her Church involvement. Don't act like it is expected for a young woman to be dating. A relationship is a serious thing, not simply something "one does,' regardless of the culture we live in.
  2. Don't be too choosy. For heaven's sake, why not?? We are talking about marriage here. The bar should be raised high! Don't encourage a young woman to lower her standards simply for the sake of having a man.
  3. Don't wait too long, dear. Your clock is ticking. God knows this. And this young woman is trying to wait for His timing and His leadership. Don't tell her to basically forgo God's pace and rush ahead of Him. And do not discourage a single woman by talking about her window of opportunity for bearing children. This can hurt more than you know.
  4. You poor thing. Hey now, I know a young man.... PLEASE don't play matchmaker. From experience, it is terribly awkward and full of pressure. Let God be God. If He can create and bring a mate to Adam in the garden, then He can make paths cross and lead a mate to this girl. Be willing to be used by God. Don't try to be God yourself.
  5. God helps those who help themselves. This is just ridiculous. A statement like that is not Biblical, nor helpful in the long run. Do not assume that just because a woman is waiting for romance, that she is sitting quietly in a corner twiddling her thumbs. More than likely, she is praying and actively waiting. Encourage her in this. Do not demean the beauty of saving herself - mind, body, and heart - for one man.

Moral of the story: Singleness is a delicate season that should be respected and protected, not treated like an illness that needs a shot of nudging or matchmaking

Sunday, 21 December 2014

The Bible: Our Church Outfit Accessory!

The most astonishing thing in the Christian world is that, many of us (myself included) claim to be Christians, Christ-like, followers of Jesus; yet our bibles are mere accessories to our church outfits. Some have the prettiest bibles around, most probably, received as presents 10years ago, but they still look as good as new. Some (not that it's a bad thing) have even transitioned from the hard copy bibles to the ones on our phones, tablets or iPads. Which brings us to a world where, you can never tell whether a person is actually following the verses as the preacher speaks or they are replying to the message of what they will be doing after church. #SaddestReality!

Our lives are so 'busy' and we have become content with skipping our personal bible study and prayer times. We think the few verses we learnt during our 'spiritual high' days will see us through the current trials and temptations. We think we know it all but one thing we don't know, the one thing we choose to ignore, is that; the great enemy of truth, the devil himself, knows his bible very well. 

Allow me to support my claim, for one to counterfeit truth, he has to know what truth is. So in like manner, for us to really know what truth is, we have to keep that connection with Christ, through his word and on our knees. Being a Christian is not a 'what I was before' or a 'what I will be' thing, but rather it's a 'what I am now' thing. Your past righteousness and faithfulness will NEVER give God an excuse to over look your current wrongs.

Moral of the Story: The moment we're separated from God's word we automatically become not only doers but also inventors of sin. So as we enter the new year (starting now), may our bibles graduate from being mere 'accessories to our church outfits' to being instruments of change in our individual lives. 

Remain in the Lord!

Monday, 1 December 2014

Modesty: Is your house locked?

Hey Everybody!!!!!

I hope and pray that the Lord is keeping you all in perfect peace as we near the end of the year. 2014 has been a good year with all its ups and downs but I'm grateful, above all, for the gift of life, family and friends. Remember to thank God for his faithfulness in your life :)

Anyway today I thought I should visit my partially abandoned blog and share an analogy on modesty I recently learnt, so here it goes:

"The reason for dressing modestly and decently is similar to the reason for locking a house. We lock our houses to keep people (intruders) out and protect the valuables inside."

Now the questions I want to leave for you to ponder upon are, 'Is your house locked? Are your valuables fully protected?' Are you dressing first for God's GLORY then for BEAUTY? With the way you dress, can people easily tell that you are a CHRISTIAN?

Stay blessed and remain in the Lord!

Monday, 24 November 2014

Delilah's laps!

Harare City Center Church Crusade (23 November to 6 December)
Theme: Discover Jesus
Song: More About Jesus
Speaker: Pastor Timuri

Day One: Samson compared to the modern day Christian based on Judges 16:19

1. Samson was regarded as a strong man in Israel. He was very popular that he could get any woman he wanted but he chose a Philistine (Delilah) who he could express his weakness to.
~ In like manner many Christians today are regarded as the spiritual giants/ prayers warriors, they have people running to them for prayers when they are in trouble, that they find it hard to share their own struggles with their fellow brethren. Hence they seek relief else where. They maintain an appearance of strength yet are weak inside.
2. Delilah was aware of Samson's strength so she knew for her to have a way around him, he had to be sleeping.
~ Likewise the devil understands the power of an active church hence his first attack is to get the Christian to slumber, to play church, to have a form of godliness but denying the power thereafter.
3. Delilah made Samson feel comfortable in his sins (by making him lie on her laps) to the extent that, though he knew Delilah attempted to kill him, he did not flee for his life.
~ In like manner, many Christians today know the things that are bad for them, things that will make them miss heaven, yet no attempt to reform is made. 
4. Delilah's laps are anywhere you go to, to find rest or relief that is not to Jesus.
5. The saddest thing about most Christians is that, they are not connected to God and they don't know it.
6. The devil will suggest to you, trick you and then laugh at you.

Conclusion: What led to Samson's death is not the falling of the house but the place which he chose to go to, to find rest or relief, that is, Delilah's laps.

Key Lessons: In times of great distress, troubles, trials and temptations, instead of running to our modern day Delilah's laps (our pastors, elders, parents, spouses, alcohol, cigarettes, food, chocolate, shopping, etc) we should remember and respond to the call made by Jesus in Matthew 11:28 - "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest."

Remain in the Lord!

Thursday, 13 November 2014

The battle between Feelings and Principle!

Click HERE to read the introduction to this series - book review of 'Enemy at the Gate' by Joe Crews. 

Previously on this series... Chapter One: Flirting with the Enemy! We learnt that if you don't want the fruit of sin then don't go to the devil's orchard! 

Chapter Two: Reaching the Mind

✨ If he is to alienate us from God, Satan must somehow gain control of our minds where all the life functions are centered.
✨ Satan understands and uses the avenue of the senses to communicate his message to the brain.
✨ Although the devil can't keep you from choosing to be saved if you want to be, he can make an indirect attack upon your will through your emotions.
✨ The greatest enemy of your will is your dependence upon feelings.

Author's interjection: This chapter really spoke to me, it made me think of all those times when I would say 'I don't feel like going to church' or 'I am not in the mood to study my bible or pray.' I realized true Christianity is not based on feelings but on principle. Following my feelings led me into making some decisions that when looking back to them today, I always ask myself 'what I was thinking?' Yes, God forgives and people change but scars will remain. Analogy - when you get hurt, the pain disappears, the wound heals but you carry the scars for a few years or even the rest of your life. Remember this analogy each time you are tempted to follow your feelings instead of principle. 

Moral of the Chapter: Satan always makes the path of sin attractive. right and wrong can never be tested by what it LOOKS like, FEELS like or TASTES like. Satan spoke flattering words which appealed to Eve's ego and vanity. What she HEARD and SAW influenced her FEELINGS to such a degree that she became blinded to right and wrong. 

Next of this series... Chapter Three - Getting rid of the Enmity!

P.S - the book is available on Amazon, you can also download the PDF version from Google or you can click HERE to email me so I can send you the PDF version of the book. 

Thursday, 6 November 2014

Flirting with the Enemy!

I am currently reading a super interesting book - 'Enemy at the Gate' by Joe Crews. In this book, the author examines the dangers of Christians drawing near to worldly attractions and explains where and how to draw the line and close the gates of your mind to everything that would lead you away from Christ. It's a typical present-truth book that I believe is a MUST READ for anyone eagerly awaiting the second advent of Christ. By that I mean YOU and me! 

I decided to start a series were I will be sharing key lessons from each chapter every Thursday for the next nine weeks (a chapter per week). The aim is to encourage each other spiritually as we journey heavenward - Amen! 

Chapter 1: Flirting with the Enemy 

✨Something is wrong when saints and sinners enjoy the same brand of entertainment and laugh at the same jokes.
✨ Spots of worldliness here and there cannot be part of true religion. A clean separation is required.
✨ The great controversy between Christ and Satan is not being fought on some far away galactic battlefield millions of light-years from planet earth, it is taking place this very moment in the arena of your heart and mind. 

Moral of the Chapter: We must not put ourselves on the enemy’s ground. We are only here as probationers. We must not act as though there were no tempting devil. There are temptations that come to us, and we cannot accept them and give them a place in the mind unless we peril our souls. We want to know that our feet are in safe paths. If you don't want the fruit of sin, then don't go to the devil's orchard!  

Next on this Series... Chapter 2 - Reaching the Mind!

P.S - the book is available on Amazon, you can also download the PDF version from Google or you can click HERE to email me so I can send you the PDF version of the book. 

Remain in the Lord! 

Monday, 3 November 2014

God does not have Grandchildren!

I have often heard people saying;

'I was born Christian' or 'I was born *insert your denomination here*' or specifically in the case of my fellow Seventh Day Adventists (SDAs), when asked how or when they joined the fold, they say 'I was born in the church' or 'I was born Adventist.' 

former Grandchild!
Author's interjection: I was one of those who used to say 'I was born in the church' or 'I have been Adventist since birth.' I said it with so much pride as if that fact alone was enough to get me into heaven. 

The danger in this is that, many of us who had the privilege of belonging to a good Christian home, have now become lukewarm. Going to church has become a routine. Since we grew up hearing about Joseph, Daniel and the three Hebrew boys, we now think we know it all. When someone rebukes us in love, it comes out as judging and we are quick to take offense. We refuse to be corrected! We refuse to be wrong! We believe, since this Christian thing has been in our families long enough, no one knows it better than us right? 

However my perception totally changed recently after listening to a sermon were the preacher said this statement "God does not have grandchildren" meaning no one is born Christian but rather we convert to Christianity. God gave all of us the choice to either serve him or serve him not (Deuteronomy 30:19), so whether or not you were born into a Christian/Adventist family, you have to make that choice some time in your life. We are not saved on someone else's merits, even if that person is mom or dad, pastor or elder.

Moral of the Story: Just because you grew up memorizing verses and singing scripture songs, doesn't make you a better Christian today. To God, your good past does not cover up your current wrongs. What you do with what you know reveals your character and God will hold you accountable for all the light you have received.

Remember you are God's child and NOT his grandchild!

Friday, 31 October 2014

Our greatest danger is...

The greatest danger we face is just ignoring God. "How shall we escape if we ignore such a great salvation?" "How shall we escape if we neglect so great salvation?" Hebrews 2:3, NIV; Hebrews 2:3, KJV.  More people will be eternally lost from neglecting God, from ignoring God, then from all other reasons combined! Your greatest danger will be that of neglecting to read God's word with a spiritual hunger every day. Your greatest danger will be in neglecting to pray constantly throughout each day.

I challenge you to become a spiritual giant using these two avenues of strength. To avoid becoming spiritually fat and lazy, there is a third part to spiritual health. Reading God's word compares to eating food. You eat two or three times a day. A good program is read God's Word as often as you eat food. Prayer is compared to breathing fresh air. Talk with God in your thoughts all through the day, just like breathing. 

Exercise is important to good physical health and it is important to good spiritual health. This is the third part of the good spiritual health triangle. Tell others about the great things you are learning. Help them find good spiritual health as well. Sharing these things with others is "exercising your faith" and just as physical exercise helps make you strong sharing the Word of God will help make you spiritually strong. Those who are ultimately lost will be lost from neglecting these three sources of power. May God guide you to strong spiritual health.

Thursday, 30 October 2014

A Sinner is a Natural Evangelist!

I'm sure you will all agree with me that, there is more sin than holiness in this world. Being holy is synonymous to being uncool. If you want to insult a Christian just call them holy and all hell will break loose, the irony. 

Why is this the case though? Ever wondered why you constantly repeat the same sin? You know something to be wrong but you do it anyway, why? You cry to God day and night for strength but when temptation come, you fall anyway, why? Is sin that nice? Or  are we blinded to the fact that it is sin? 

Here is what I think, a sinner is a natural evangelist! 

To explain my premise lets go back to where it all started, the fall of men in Genesis. The serpent talked Eve into eating the forbidden fruit but one thing we always miss is that, the serpent did not ask her to give some to Adam yet she did it anyway. In like manner, it is more natural for us to drag others to join our sinful ways, yet we find it hard to share Jesus. 

It doesn't take two minutes to think of a way to get a girl to agree to sleep with you, to ask a friend to lie to cover up for you, to think of a way to re-possess something that doesn't belong to you (stealing), yet when it comes to sharing God's word, we somehow all become inadequate. We have mastered the excuses of Moses and Jonah yet totally ignorant of the words of Paul when he says 'I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.' 

I know sin is nice (if it wasn't, then we will all be holy), but Jesus is calling us to the cross, to share in his suffering and pain, to take up our cross daily and follow him. Prosperity, miracles and wonders should not be the drive in our Christianity as being portrayed in many of our churches, JESUS and Him crucified should and must be the center of the gospel.

Tuesday, 28 October 2014

Beautiful Days

When you focus on the good things throughout the day and you don't murmur or complain about anything, at the end of the day you can look back and call it an awesome day, no matter the struggles encountered that day. 

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. ~ {Psalm 23:6} 

Blessed Day Y'all :)

Monday, 27 October 2014

It's worse than Ebola!

If you don't know about Ebola, then you probably don't live on this planet. 

When you turn on the television you hear about Ebola, Radio its Ebola, Newspapers its Ebola, Posters all over, are all about Ebola. That's just how deadly the virus is and it has been seen fit that everyone should be aware of it. However there is one other virus that has been spreading for about 6000 years now, yet people seem to have turned a blind eye to it. This virus is more deadly than Ebola, AIDS and Cancer put together, it does not only affect people but it killed God's only begotten Son. In places where this virus should be exposed (churches), it is now being sugar coated. We are deceived into believing that we will live forever (be saved) while carrying this virus. 

Unlike Ebola, this virus has a cure (the blood of Jesus), as long as we remember to take our daily dose (the word of God) and drink sufficient water with it (prayer), our immune system (spiritual life) will be strong enough to fight and defeat this virus.

The Great Physician (Jesus) is able and willing to cleanse us from this deadly virus called SIN. The question I want to live for you today is - will you let Him?

Sunday, 26 October 2014

Socially Transmitted Disease!

"But as the days of Noah were, so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day Noe entered into the ark..." ~ {Matthew 24:37-38}

          Eating                Drinking             Marrying 
"People of God suffer from many illnesses today that we should not be suffering from. One of the greatest illnesses we suffer from is SPIRITUAL AMNESIA. We seem to forget what God has done quickly. As soon as we are blessed, we turn looking for the next blessing forgetting to thank God for the blessings we already have."

We have lost the zeal we once had, the love for God, the love for souls. Though it might appear as if the devil is winning, God has his faithful few. Yes! there are people out there who are living the word of God so if you are one of those who comfort themselves with - everyone else is doing it, so why shouldn't I? - reality is, God is not seeking to save the majority but the faithful. He will not lower His standards to accommodate us.

Remember Sodom and Gomorrah. Remember the story of Noah and the flood. Remember the fall of Jerusalem. God always had his faithful few and it is the same case today. Study to show yourself approved. If ever we needed to study the bible diligently and pray for ourselves, we sure need to now. 

Oh Lord, help us remember You!

Monday, 20 October 2014

Being my mother's daughter :)

Whether you have a great mother-daughter relationship or a mother-daughter relationship that can be improved, you probably know that mother-daughter bonding can start at any stage in life and it's never too late.


Yesterday  we had a mother-daughter social event with the ladies from church. This event taught me that I could love anyone. I don't have to know someone for years for me to be a friend or a sister. I was touched by the concern our mothers had for us young ladies in the church. They took time to organize the event and be there, not only to advise us on issues of life but to also hear the challenges we are facing spiritually. To all the women out there who are doing the same, please continue the good work, your impact is far greater than you think.

As one of the presenters was speaking, I had flash backs of my own life. She was speaking on the issue of dress and she said, as long as you might think you're dressing for yourself, when people see your dressing, they don't only draw conclusions about you but your mother as well. The way you present yourself says a lot about the home that you come from. When I was younger (and old enough to buy my own clothes), the worst part of my life was dressing up to go somewhere with my mom. I knew I had to change three or four times before she could approve of my dressing. Sometimes she would give me the 'talking eye' that would make me go back to my wardrobe and grab that dress I vowed to never wear. It never made sense then but today I thank her for it. To my younger sisters, you will not always understand why your mom is doing certain things but when you are older you will realize that it was all for your well being. No matter how educated you become and your mom barely went past 7th grade, when it comes to life issues you will never know more than her.

In like manner, we will not always understand why certain things are happening to us, why things aren't going our way but if we trust God, he will unveil his plans before our eyes. We will never ever have knowledge that surpasses that of God, never! From my own experience, trusting Him, though not always easy, is the safest thing we can ever do and it's never too late! Our father above gave us the holy precepts, he sacrificed his only son, he promised us the guidance of the Holy Spirit, he has done all he could, not for his benefit but for us to be restored back to his image. For us to be rescued from this sinful world. For us to kiss - death, pain, poverty and sorrow - goodbye forever. Is this love not enough for us to surrender our lives to him? For us to love one another to the extent that we will be pained to see a brother or sister fall?

Wednesday, 8 October 2014

Never forgetting to Murmur

The major problem with ancient Israel was of forgetfulness. They FORGOT their bitter service in Egypt. They FORGOT the goodness and power of God displayed in their behalf in their deliverance from bondage. They FORGOT how their children had been spared when the destroying angel slew all the first-born of Egypt. They FORGOT the grand exhibition of divine power at the Red Sea. They FORGOT that while they had crossed safely in the path that had been opened for them, the armies of their enemies, attempting to follow them, had been overwhelmed by the waters of the sea.

However, they were quick to remember their present inconveniences and trials - does this sound familiar? Instead of saying "God has done great things for us; whereas we were slaves, He is making of us a great nation," they talked of the hardness of the way, and wondered when their weary pilgrimage would end - don't we do this all the time?

Many look back to the Israelites, and marvel at their unbelief and murmuring, feeling that they themselves would not have been so ungrateful; but when our faith is tested, even by little trials, we manifest no more faith or patience than did ancient Israel. When brought into strait places, we murmur at the process by which God has chosen to purify us. Though our present needs are supplied, we are unwilling to trust God for the future, and we are in constant anxiety lest poverty shall come upon us. We ignore the verse that says, "take no thought for your life.." (Matthew 6:25).

Some are always anticipating evil or magnifying the difficulties that already exist, so that their eyes are blinded to the many blessings which demand their gratitude. The obstacles that we face, instead of leading us to seek help from God, the only source of strength, separate us from Him, because they awaken unrest and repining.

Moral of the story: In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. ~ {1 Thessalonians 5:18}.

Sunday, 5 October 2014

Have you wandered away from home?

Testimony Time!!!

I came across a heart felt and life changing testimony on AudioVerse - my all time favourite online hangout place. I am a serious AudioVerse addict, click on the link to find out why and trust me, after a few visits you will be on cloud nine spiritually. 

Taariq Patel - a product of an unequally yoked union (between a Christian and Muslim). Raised Muslim. Later turned into a drug addict. Tried to quit but failed dismally. Lost all hope but the Lord stood by His promise of never leaving nor forsaking us. Now he is back home, right in the arms of Jesus, enjoying the peace only God can grant. Praise the Lord!  

Click HERE to listen to the whole testimony.

"O give thanks to the Lord, for he is good: for his mercy endures for ever. Let the redeemed of the Lord say so, whom he has redeemed from the hand of the enemy; And gathered them out of the lands, from the east, and from the west, from the north and from the south. They wandered in the wilderness in a solitary way; they found no city to dwell in. Hungry and thirsty, their soul fainted in them. Then they cried unto the Lord in their trouble, and he delivered them out of their distresses. And he led them forth by the right way, that they might go to a city of habitation. Oh that men would praise the Lord for his goodness, and for his wonderful works to the children of men!" ~ {Psalm 107:1-8}

Thursday, 2 October 2014

Dear Best Friend

These moments will forever be in my memory. 
I hope we grow old still best friends 
and be the coolest grandmas our generation would ever have.

Stay blessed and remain a blessing.

I love you, always and forever!

Friday, 26 September 2014

When do you want to settle down?

A friend sincerely asked me that question yesterday and I thought to myself, that question is a lil delayed because I wanted to settle down the moment I got my first boyfriend. Yes, that's when I WANTED to but now I know better and I praise God for that. 

It's very easy yea fun, to draw up a plan of when you want to get married, the particulars of your future hubby or wife, the number of children you want to have, etc. However the truth is, God's will, will always prevail, so why not just save yourself the hustle and let him order and provide? The reason many out there are not happily single is because they put themselves in God's place, they set deadlines on when they should be married, on when they should have their first child, they have totally ignored the part God plays in their life. Now when things don't work out the way they would have hoped, they blame God, they throw tantrums at him. I mean is it really God's fault though? God never said ask for anything and I will give you, the bible says "and this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he hears us" ~ {1 John 5:14}. Yes, there is a 'his will' part in that verse, that many of us ignore.

So my response to that question was - "Here is the honest truth, I don't know. I used to stress about it a lot until I realized it's one aspect of my life I have no control over. If it's God's will for me to marry, then it will happen at His own timing. If not, then I'm content with that too. I have learnt to live in the present, I only know my future to the extent that God revealed, what he hasn't doesn't bother me at all."

Moral of the story: Don't plan ahead of God. If you have no control over it, then you have no right to worry and stress about it. Leave to thy God to order and provide. Trust Him!

Thursday, 25 September 2014

Homeschoolers are NOT socialized?

Last Sabbath, there was a mini discussion on homeschooling at church. Many argued against it because they fear their children won't be able to fit well in society after being homeschooled. My question remains, when you send your child to school, are you doing so, because you want them to be socialized or to gain an education? But that's besides the point... 

Anyway my point here is, I started pre-school when I was four turning five, went to a public school for a good seven years of junior school and another six years of high school at a private school then went off to a secular university for three years. With the theory of sending your child to school to be socialized, I should now be a super social being, huh? I mean after all those years, right? 

Surprisingly enough, I am a serious ochlophobe - I don't do well in crowds. Worst still, if there are a lot of unfamiliar faces, I literally shut down. I am a very bad communicator, as a result I don't have many friends. I am one of those people who often let calls go to voice mail, I hate having to run out of things to say when someone calls. I suck at making friends but I do have friends and I admit no effort of mine was put in (well, at least, consciously). In church I always put my bag to keep the seat next to me empty (to avoid sitting next to someone I don't know) and make sure a friend sits on the other side. When I get an email, it takes me a while to reply because I hate being a conversation killer, so if I know I don't have anything to carry the conversation on, I don't reply until I do. I could go on, but I'm sure you get my point...

If you are going to argue against homeschooling then your reason shouldn't be that your child won't be socialized. The few friends that I actually have are mostly from church with one or two from high school. None from junior school. So much for being socialized, right?

Wednesday, 24 September 2014


Choices are everywhere in this world:

Should I wear white socks, black socks, one of each?
Should I use a pencil or a pen?
Should I practice violin or piano first?
Should I eat an apple or a banana?
Should I use the computer or scratch paper?
Should I run or walk? 

But those choices are trivial compared to the choice constantly presenting itself,

...GOD or Satan? 

Is it really a very hard choice?  We see the results plainly enough; we know where each path leads. So why then do we so often find ourselves excusing a short run down the wrong path just to make sure they haven't changed? We have experience with each; the straight and narrow way is the only one that brings happiness.

So should choosing God be hard?
No! It should be the easiest and happiest thing we have ever done!

But we are in a battle, and it is always a challenge to not give up.
That's why I am so thankful for the help Jesus promises us.

*post exacted from an unknown author*

Tuesday, 23 September 2014

So excited!

I'm not sure if I mentioned this before but prior to this year, my relationship with my parents was non-existent. When we spoke it was either we are greeting or they are sending me. If I had anything important to tell them I would email or send a text message (in rare cases). Yes, it was that bad and the worst thing is that it had become the norm. Saddening reality! 

Testimony: However, God always has a way to fix things around! After being a stay at home daughter for a few months now, everything has changed. My mom and I are best buddies, we talk about everything and anything. We call each other when she is at work, we have chill time after work, she has replaced google and YouTube as my teacher in the kitchen. I make sure she has baked goodies to look forward to everyday. My dad and I are like brother and sister, that's exactly how we relate to each other. These might seem like little things but they make a big difference in one's life. I have never doubted that my parents loved me but this experience has deepened the love. 

Background: Earlier this year, the plan was I go back to Law School for my postgraduate but things happened so that plan failed. I wept until my tears ran dry, I was so sad to leave my Cape Town friends and family. I had all these suicidal thoughts going on in my mind. I threw tantrums at God until I gave up and fully surrendered to God and sought for his will to be done. Only then did His will start to unveil before my eyes. Everything started to go in place. I learnt that truly, "all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose." 

Moral of the story: If you are going through a dark patch in your life, if you are unsure of what your tomorrow holds, if things aren't going as you would have hoped, don't worry, don't stress, don't throw tantrums at God. He is one being that will never disappoint you no matter what. He always has your best interest at heart. Just surrender to Him and He will show you great things. You might think something is good for you but God knows what's best for you. Trust Him!

Monday, 22 September 2014

Sweetness to the Soul

Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. ~{Proverbs 16:24}

In it's literal sense, honey is not only sweet but has a healing property to it. In like manner, our words are so powerful that they can sweeten the lives of other people as well as to heal the broken hearted. The bible says, death and life are in the power of the tongue thus the words we speak may have an effect for good or for ill on the hearer. Though we generally talk a lot as human beings, to the extent that by the end of the day we won't remember how many words we said, we will surely remember the kind of words we spoke. God never intended that any hurtful speech comes out of our mouths, but the devil well knows that if he can get us to speak ill of/about each other, he can easily win us over to his side. 

Moral of the story: Imagine a world where every person you meet would sweeten your soul, they would speak words that would bring healing to your bones. How good and peaceful? That world begins with YOU!

Sunday, 21 September 2014

Union with Christ

Our growth in grace, our joy, our usefulness,—all depend upon our union with Christ. It is by communion with Him, daily, hourly,—by abiding in Him,—that we are to grow in grace. He is not only the Author, but the Finisher of our faith. It is Christ first and last and always. He is to be with us, not only at the beginning and the end of our course, but at every step of the way. David says, “I have set the Lord ALWAYS before me: because He is at my right hand, I shall not be moved.” Psalm 16:8. – {SC 69.1}

* SC - Steps to Christ by Ellen G.White

Saturday, 20 September 2014

Children's Story

One of the many reasons I love being a Seventh-day Adventist is that, the church is family oriented. Every Sabbath before the main sermon we have a sermonette for the little ones and these almost always carry profound teachings.

The past Sabbath, a story was told of a very rich and wealthy man. He had everything that one could ever dream of and more. A mansion by the sea side, fancy cars, a speed boat, a private jet, a helicopter, among other things. This man lived with his only son and a servant who had faithfully served their family for a long time. One day the father and his son went for a picnic and the father realizing that he was very old and about to die told his son that, when he dies, the boy was supposed to choose only ONE thing from his father's possessions and give the rest to the servant who had been so faithful. Time passed and the father died. The boy deeply troubled with the thoughts of what he would pick, went out for a walk. While he was at it, he met an old man who noticed his sorrow and asked him what was wrong. The boy narrated the whole story to him and the old man told the boy to come back to him after a week. Likewise, the boy went back to the old man and he was advised to pick the servant. The boy did not argue or oppose and when time came for him to announce his decision he told everyone that he was choosing the servant. Despite the pressure and questions he got from the people around him, he did not change his mind. 

Moral of the story: We need to always give careful thought before making any decisions. There are times when choosing just ONE thing will result in us gaining everything. In this case, the boy chose the servant who was going to be given everything hence he ended up retaining all that his father possessed. Another lesson is that, all that glitters is not gold - He could have easily chosen one of the fancy cars but after driving around town and once the gas finished, it would become worthless. He could have chosen money but once all spent, he would be left with nothing. Another lesson was that, when confronted with difficult situations we must seek counsel of godly older folk who might have gone through what we are struggling with. We must also learn to be patient, the little boy could have demanded for a now now response from the old man, but he was patient enough to wait for a week. Last but not least, we must not yield to external pressure, if we know something to be right then we must stand by it, no matter what mom or dad, pastor or elder, friend or relative, say/think/do. 

Now to bring it back home, in our own lives we might be faced with situations that demand us to make very difficult decisions. Having to choose our good jobs over our faith or family/friends over biblical principles, among others. After weighing the possible consequences, these can be very hard decisions to make, but the advice I want to leave for you today is that, no matter how much you are likely to loose, if you choose Jesus you have gained ALL that you need in this life and life to come. Though things might turn out shady, joy will always come in the morning. Once the test is over and God blesses, He blesses abundantly. Trust God! 

Thursday, 18 September 2014

Thankful Thursday

In this struggling economy, where companies are closing daily and hundreds yea thousands of people are graduating yearly. Getting a job is almost impossible, worse still if you don't have connections. Almost giving up yet continuing in prayer, hoping with a tiny bit of faith that God will eventually come through, has been the case with our family for the past few months. My mom spoke to all the business people she knew, sent out CVs everywhere, signed up with an employment agent, burnt a lot of fueling going from one place to the another. 

All seemed to be in vain until last week when a job interview invitation popped-up. That was no guarantee but we continued in prayer for God's will to be done. Lo and behold earlier this week, a job offer was made but with a condition that during the probationary period their employees MIGHT be required to work on SATURDAY! *what a slam in the face* Hurt but not surprised we all were, as we pondered on the next step. I certainly had no input so I excused myself from the discussion but continued in prayer.  I went on with a heavy heart until I realized that, if the job is really from God, He alone can make a way, where there seems to be no way. 

As we continue in prayer, I would like to wish my older brother ALL THE BEST in his new job. Be the Joseph, be the Daniel, in whatever you find your hands to do. Remembering always that 'your labour is not in vain in the Lord' (1 Corinthians 15:58).

Side-note: I'm so sad that I won't have anyone to poke/annoy and nag to drive me around anymore. No more yelling your name from the other side of the house only to say hie when you answer. Thanks for making the greater part of my stay at home year worth it.

Tuesday, 16 September 2014

Guest Post: Living for the ‘Godience’

Miss Vee
I am super excited to share this post written by a young lady and dear friend Varaidzo Pauline Danana. Such thought-provoking truth! I really hope and pray y'all will be revived spiritually :)

Firstly I would like to draw your attention to two points:

1. God is Love - I believe that with every fiber of my being. He says in 1 John 3:16 ‘This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us’, this verse reminds me of John 3:16. God hated sin to death and He loved the sinner to death. He did this because He longs to be with us.
2. The word ‘Godience’ (as you might have guessed or maybe not) is derived from a combination of two words GOD and AUDIENCE. It means that we ought to live our lives for God. I got this from a sermon “Because of those who sat” by David Asscherick. I will share some lessons I got from the sermon which will help us understand the term 'Godience.'

• We are accountable to God alone, but we do not often live this way. We frequently make decisions that are based on a deeper motivation, and that motivation, at times, is that we care more about what others think of us than what God thinks.
• Can you say ‘I am a slave of Jesus’ with a straight face? Paul could comfortably say that in Galatians 1:10 (NIV) ‘Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men I would not be a servant of Christ’. (The NKJV uses the word ‘Bondservant’). It is either we are slaves of Jesus or we are slaves of what others think of us.
• We are deeply concerned about what others think of us, but we do not want anyone to know it. 

Personal Experience: I am currently doing a Marketing course and I now understand why people do not like Salespersons. I strongly question some of the marketing methods that we are taught because they are contradictory to what the Bible teaches. Most Sales persons will say anything to close a sale, and they can put you under unnecessary pressure so you purchase a product quickly before you start thinking otherwise (Free advice!). As I study the marketing environment I have realized that people are no longer themselves anymore. They now dress like famous worldly celebrities. They also walk and talk like them, (I will not discuss hairdos, ladies and GENTS!), not because it is the most awesome thing you can do for yourself, but because of peer pressure, caring about what others think of them.

Forced to Change: Before the age of seventeen I was never self conscious. I would just dress anyhow, walk normally and do things without looking around to see what was ‘cool’ at that time. It was after I was sent to a ‘mixed’ High School when I noticed that the ladies put make-up (although it was not allowed!), fold their socks in a certain way, dress, walk and talk in a certain way. I couldn’t believe it! I told myself I would never do that and I was going to do things my way like I always did. Lo and behold, within a year, I was no different from them, simply because I wanted to belong.

Biblical Examples: Peer pressure is not something new to this day, Mark 6:17-29 gives us an account when King Herod was pressured by his wife and daughter to kill John the Baptist against his conscience. This goes out to illustrate that, living for others does not only imply our wanting to be like famous celebrities, it also means going against our conscience in the hope to please our parents, spouses or children.

Moral of the story: God is looking for people who will STAND and live for Him amidst peer pressure or forced submission. People who will say in His presence and even among hundreds of thousands of people “O Nebuchadnezzar, we have no need to answer you in this matter. If that is the case, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and He will deliver us from your hand, O king. But if not, let it be known to you, O king, that we do not serve your gods, nor will we worship the gold image which you have set up” (Daniel 3:17-18). Whether that pressure comes from mom or dad, uncle or aunt, pastor or elder, we must always remember the counsel given in Acts 5:29 “We ought to obey God rather than men."

In conclusion, let us consider the first point I mentioned earlier - God is love; do we love Him? What are we willing to do for Him and His love for us? What are you willing to do for others for HIS sake? John 14:15 says ‘If you love me keep my commandments’. Are we willing to obey Him even if it means standing alone? We will need to love and get to know Him first because obedience without love is impossible and worthless. We will either be slaves of our friends and families or slaves of Jesus. The HUGE difference is that when you are Jesus’ slave, you are FREE. God bless!

Thank you Vee for such encouraging truth. May our good and most gracious Father continue to bless and guide us as we journey Heavenward!

Monday, 15 September 2014

Random Ramblings: What happened to arranged marriages?

Picture of me back in 2011
when I was on my wna-be Indian tip!

I am one of those people who are fascinated by the Indian culture (well specific aspects of it). I'm a big fan of Indian clothes. I used to be a major groupie of Indian-wedding-themed movies. One thing that stood out for me was their arranged marriage tradition. I just adored the fact that young ladies never had to go through the dating dilemmas, heart breaks, infatuation or true love confusion, etc. For them the principle behind arranged marriages is that, your parents know you very well and will make the decision based on experience and not emotions. This in a way reduces the risks of divorce since both families are heavily involved prior to marriage. 

I used to think this tradition was custom-made for the Indian culture until recently when, after reading about the marriage of Isaac, the son of Abraham (ref: Genesis 24), I was led into researching more on how marriage happened in bible times. I found out that; "In ancient times marriage engagements were generally made by the parents, and this was the custom among those who worshipped God. None were required to marry those whom they could not love; but in the bestowal of their affections the youth were guided by the judgement of their experienced, God-fearing parents. It was regarded as a dishonor to parents, and even a crime, to pursue a course contrary to this." ~ {Patriarchs and Prophets page 171.2 by Ellen G. White.}

Myth Bursting: an arranged marriage is not synonym of a forced marriage. It's not a case where you meet your spouse on your wedding. Its not entered upon to secure financial stability or strengthen friendship bonds of the families involved, as portrayed in some of these Indian movies. It's a way of upholding emotional purity prior to marriage. It raises back the standard of love from being a mere feeling to being a principle. 

Side note: I could have used the term courtship but I prefer arranged marriage, the concept can't easily be mistaken or misused as is with courtship and arranged marriage sounds more serious and straight to the point (in my head, that is). If you think of it, Adam and Eve also had an arranged marriage! (well, at least that's what I want to call it), so make sure God arranges your marriage and don't forget the devil is also fighting to arrange it as well. 

Remain in The Lord!