Saturday, 31 May 2014

Monthly Review - May

Stay at Home Daughterhood!

May was my first full month as a stay at home daughter. I thought, as many would assume, being home, just being home, would be super boring, the days would drag, I won't have much to do and would probably spend most of my day SLEEPING! (not that sleeping is a bad thing, I wouldn't mind really). But by God's grace my testimony is a different one, serving my family at home has proven to be the best opportunity I could ever dream of. I have learnt to derive true happiness from cooking, BAKING (Yes! I love baking now, vegan friendly stuff only), doing laundry (yes! hand washing), ironing, cleaning the house (with the aid of nice godly music, it doesn't seem as much work anymore), feeding and playing with our puppies, and many other random stuff. I have so many things to thank God for, but I will just list a few:

1. Birthday thanksgiving: we celebrated my older brother and my mom's birthdays. 
2. My mom got me a kitchen blender for her birthday, now I just wonder what I will get for my birthday *excited*
3. Wedding anniversary: my parents have been married for 24 years now!!! *whoop whoop*
4. We did our first Sabbath School presentation as a family, which led to my newly discovered talent/spiritual gift - public speaking *yay*
5. Family oriented month. Grateful for the wonderful, AWESOME gift of family. #HumblyMaposa!


Expectations for June:

1. Book of the Month - continuing with Testimonies to the church vol 1.
2. Chapter of the Month - Job 1
3. Theme for the Month - improved interactions with other people i.e  making new friends.
4. Prayer focus - marriaged and courting people, my future hubby (shame, it's been a while since I last prayed for him, I hope he is well wherever he is).


Tuesday, 27 May 2014

The Church is a Hospital!

After going through the parable of the tares, I was inspired to research more about weeds. From my findings, what stood out for me was the fact that; the purpose of weeds is to make you aware that the soil is lacking in certain nutrients and this is the reason why there are several kinds of weeds. With cross reference to Matthew 13:1-23, parable of the sower and the seed, the soil represents the heart/mind.

I then sought to answer the following questions: Why do the tares and wheat have to grow together? Won't the tares use up the remaining of the already lacking nutrients in the soil? What if the tares out grow the wheat? Isn't it safer to just get rid of the tares and just risk losing one or two wheat plants than risking the whole field at harvest time? Could there be a positive side to these tares?

Upon reflection I realized that uprooting the tares was not an option because The Lord is not willing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). So the only remaining question was, could there really be a positive side to these tares?


I came to a conclusion that, Yes! there is a positive side of these tares. Though they are capable of tearing down truth, sometimes God allows those tares to do their work because he wants to make us aware of the lacking nutrients in our hearts.

When wheat stands up on the pulpit we feel warm, we say YES! truth, yes TRUTH! but the real condition of our hearts is set out by how we respond to the tare that stands up and says "there is no victory over sin, we are saved in our sins."

Are we like John who said, Lord send down fire from heaven and consume the Samaritans? Or are we like Moses who pleads for the sins of Israel, to the extend that we are willing that our names be blotted out for the sake of our brothers and sisters?

When we see the tares in the church, do we just sit and watch them tear down truth? Do we get fade up and leave? Leaving the precious souls to be lost while we find ourselves a place where we can have pure and holy worship? Or do we like the good shepherd, stand up, FIGHT and contend for the faith that was once delivered unto the saints? (Jude 3). Do we possess the love of Christ that we are willing to lay down our lives for our friends? (John 15:13).

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Tuesday, 20 May 2014

Thou Good and Faithful servant!

"Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye SEPARATE, saith The Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, and will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty." ~ 2 Corinthians 6:17-18


I'd like to start off by bringing you to a scene in our biblical past... the poor widow who gave everything and walked away with nothing.  Or so it would seem.  Picture this, men and women were giving of their wealth, of what they could afford to give without actually causing any kind of financial pinch.  They paraded their wealth before men and gave for all to see. Then, in walks this precious precious widow, ever faithful to God, who came with all she had and tossed it in the offering along with the wealth of those who had preceeded her.  

I wonder, did she weigh her decision carefully before leaving her home on that particular day?  Were worry and fear on her face as she walked forward to offer the only money she had remaining?  What was she going to eat tonight?  How would she pay for any personal needs she may have in the coming days?  Jesus saw what she had done.  What was His reaction?  He called His disciples over!  Hey guys, get over here, look at this!  Jesus wanted to show them what a real act of FAITH looked like.  He explained to them that this woman had given more than anyone else because she had given of her poverty while the others gave of their wealth.

Unlike this lady, we clutter our lives with a lot of 'hay and stubble.' We become comfortable with what we have and use it all to satisfy our fleshly desires.  Then, when something threatens to take any of it away, even if it's the word of God, fear is right there to make us take our eyes off Who and What is really important and instead focus on what we may lose.  Financial difficulties have a way of making people sort through their priorities and decide what's really important, but still the 'hay and stubble' remain.  Why?  Because we're using this 'hay and stubble' to satisfy our own desires instead of using what the Lord has blessed us with to bless others.  This 'hay and stubble' are the very things that we're told by the world that we "need." 

Moral of the story: Once you choose to give up the 'hay and stumble' to follow Christ, you will have to travel the NARROW PATH (the TRUTH has never and will never be popular), you might seem a lil odd, you might be termed 'old fashioned', but remember always that God sometimes needs to reshape and remold you into a vessel through which He can work miracles in the lives of others.  Sometimes God needs to prune the branch severely in order for it to survive and produce much fruit.  Know that when the Lord allows such times in your life, He's not just concerned with the "now" but is also looking ahead when the pruning will be fit to be used to fulfill His purpose in your life and in the lives of others.

#TeamNarrowPath!


Thursday, 15 May 2014

Random Ramblings: Mini Marriages

From my general observations, I have noticed that many couples, even well-meaning ones, more often than ever end up in the premarital sex dilemma hence violating the 7th commandment (thou shalt not commit adultery ~ Exodus 20:14).

My question has always been: What went wrong? After preserving ones's purity all your life only to fall a few months, weeks or days prior to marriage. Why? Why? Why?

Not ignoring the great controversy between good and evil and the fact that the devil is exercising double powers to counter God's will. Another reason could be that, while courting or engaged, many people are already acting as if they are married. They place themselves in these "mini-marriages" and forget that they are not there yet. They are already calling each other 'hubby' or 'wifey', which makes it easier for them to fall into sexual sin.

The bible makes it clear in Ecclesiates that, there is a time for everything under the heavens - a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing (Eccles 3:5). It's very important to set physical boundaries, reserve your first kiss for your wedding and the rest for your honeymoon night. You have just but a lil time to WAIT and the REST of your lives together. You will NEVER regret keeping all you can for marriage.

In addition to physical boundaries, it is also wise to consider relational boundaries as well. My dearest sisters, LISTEN! and listen very CAREFULLY; this wonderful, God-fearing! Heaven sent, dream come true man you are about to marry and will soon become the leader of your home is NOT your husband yet. You are not called to submit to him or be his helpmeet until you become his wife. And my brothers don't expect her to be playing wife before she is your wife, if ever you wish that she practices being a good wife, pray that she does so at the feet of Jesus.

Fornication will not change it's meaning because you guys are about to get married. A kiss whether on your first date or on the night before you are married is still fornication. God will never lower His standards to accommodate us for He has given us enough power to get there.

Moral of the story: while courting or engaged, REMEMBER!!! that you aren't married yet and don't act as if you are.

#SayNoToMiniMarriages!

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Monday, 12 May 2014

To The Dying Church: Maybe Death is a Blessing

Growing up the thought of death was a complete nightmare. I never understood why God would put many wonderful people in my life only to allow them to die. I hated death with a PASSION!

I never knew what to say or do when watching someone you love, who helped raise you, who cared for you, who partially defined who you would be; perish before your eyes. If I could, I would have disappeared into thin air at that moment.

Death sucked!!! to say the least.

Now when looking at the condition of God's church today, death, YES! dying,  is something I really, truly and deeply consider necessary. As I watch her on her deathbed, though my heart is saddened, I must admit, I can't wait to see what she will become on the other side.


Though it might seem as if all hope is lost; I thank God through Jesus, death will not have the final word. How perfectly upside-down is our God to show us exactly how ALIVE He is through a DYING church.

Maybe this kind of death is a BLESSING after all. How very God-like of God to make death the beginning of a blessing.

Moral of the story: "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand." ~ Ephesians 6:12-13.


Saturday, 10 May 2014

Hide Nothing from your Mom

Being the only daughter in my family, I never had to compete for my father's love. My dad hardly ever laid a hand on me (with exception of some extreme cases) neither did I ever get a NO for an answer. Not that I got all I asked for but sometimes he would just remain silent at my requests. He knew anything other than silence would get the best out of me #tears!My mom on the other hand would literally beat the living hell out of me. She was never scared of my tears, she was generous enough to use the rod when ever it was necessary. As a result I grew up closer to my dad than anyone else.

As childhood vanished and adulthood approached, I started to realize the importance of a mother. There were things I couldn't tell my dad, that if I had confided in my mom, I wouldn't have made some mistakes I made. My mom would always go on about how I should open up to her, and how she will not judge me but rather advice me in the way I should go. However all that went in through one ear and came out through the other.

From past experience, my advice to other daughters out there, my sisters and friends is:

HIDE NOTHING FROM YOUR MOM!!!



"The moment a girl has a secret from her mother, or has received a letter she dare not let her mother read, or has a friend that her mother does not know, she is in danger. A secret is not a good thing for a girl to have. The fewer secrets that lie in the hearts of women at any age, the better. It is almost a test of purity. She who has no secrets of her own is best and happiest. In girlhood hide nothing from your mother. The girl who says frankly to her mother, "I have been there; met so and so; such and such remarks were made, and this or that was done," will be sure of receiving good advice and sympathy. If all was right no fault will be found. If the mother knows, out of her great experience, that something was improper or unsuitable, she will, if she is a good mother, kindly advise against it's repetition. You may not know, girls, just what is right or just what is wrong, yet. You can't be blamed for making little mistakes; but you will never do anything very wrong if from the first you have no secrets from your mother."

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Thursday, 8 May 2014

Joy and Consolation

... In seeking the Lord!

I thought this to be a lil weird but hey, The Lord has unique ways of letting His will known to His seeking souls. Firstly, I woke up reciting 2 Timothy 3:1 "This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come." Secondly, this just had to be at 2am. The weirdest combination ever! Oh and thirdly, I couldn't go back to sleep afterwards so I found myself doing my devotion. 

As I wondered what that verse had to do with my seeking of the Lord's will in my life, another verse popped up on my screen: "How sweet are thy words to my taste, yea, sweeter than honey to my mouth!" ~ Psalm 119:103. Following the verse was this quotation: "God has given us His word as a lamp to our feet and light to our path. It's teachings have a vital bearing on our prosperity in ALL relations of life. Even in our temporal affairs it will be a wiser guide than any other counselor..." ~ In Heavenly Places 135.2.

A thought then came to mind that; though I might have a passion for biblical womanhood, homemaking, caring for children, cooking and baking (ref: Titus 2), all that has been labelled as not being good enough. Contrary to those roles, women are expected to actually do something with their lives, they now have to go out and do what men do in the workforce, going through life as strong leaders who get their way and embark on their own paths. In other words that simply implies that, God's design, God's way is now regarded as unacceptable. Hence shading more light on why the Lord impressed 2 Timothy 3:1, indeed men are now lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God. Lord have mercy on us! 

Question: Can we ever find a surer guide than our Lord Jesus?

Moral of the story: "True religion is embodied in the Word of God and consists in being under the guidance of the Holy One in thought, word, and deed. He who is the way, the truth, and the life takes the humble, earnest, wholehearted seeker and says, Follow Me. He leads him in the narrow way to holiness and heaven. Christ has opened this way for us at great cost to Himself. We are not left to stumble our way along in darkness. Jesus is at our right hand, proclaiming, I am the way. And all who decide to follow the Lord fully will be led in the royal path, yea more, the divine path cast up for the ransomed of the Lord to walk in." ~ In Heavenly Places 142.3


Monday, 5 May 2014

Seeking The Lord

My mom came into my room earlier. I really wish I could have given her the answers she needed. She looked and sounded very worried and concerned. She hadn't actually been in my room just to sit and talk to me. It's either she is coming to drop something or to wake me up in the morning. The fact that she came all the way to my room, meant whatever she had to say was very important.

She asked a very sincere question, I knew it was going to come up eventually but I didn't think it would come up this soon. As she sat on my bed, she said "Nonto, tell me, what exactly are you planning to do with your life?" The worry on her face was unbearable, it was as if her whole world had crumbled down. I sought for words which I thought would brighten her up, but my dear brain froze, all I said was "Mom, honestly I have no plan, I am earnestly and patiently waiting on the Lord." She then suggested that I go back and work at my dad's friend's law firm, as nice and appealing as that sounds, the last time I was there the only thing I enjoyed was the free lunch and allowances we got, other than that it was yah neh... But of course I couldn't say that in her face, so I remained silent hoping the conversation would just die.

As she was leaving, what she said hit me hard, the first thing that came to my mind was "I NEEDTO START PRAYING HARDER!" Her words came as a reminder that the devil is not playing, he is surely attempting to counter whatever The Lord has in store for my life. I realized as much as I might want to give up on God, this is the time for me to practically seek The Lord in prayer, fasting and diligently studying His word. 

 I will continue exercising my childlike faith, like Jacob, wrestling with the angel until he blesses me. 


Sunday, 4 May 2014

Biblical Womanhood: God's secret Weapon

"Women of God can never be like women of the world. The world has enough women who are tough, we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse, we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune, we need more
WOMEN OF FAITH.
We have enough greed, we need more goodness. We have enough vanity, we need more virtue. We have enough popularity, we need more purity." ~ Margaret D. Nadauld.

Five key Attributes of a Godly Woman:

1. SEEK GOD FIRST - Reject the lie that anything or anyone else can satisfy you. "Seek ye first the kingdom of Heaven and all these things will be added unto you." Matthew 6:33.

2. SPEAK FAITHFULLY - Give good advice with godly wisdom, love, boldness and kindness. "She opens her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness." Proverbs 31:26.

3. EMBRACE TRUE BEAUTY - Bodies deteriorate, persons develop. Invest in that which lasts forever. "Favour is deceitful and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears The Lord, she shall be praised." Proverbs 31:30.

4. STAY HUMBLE - Be constantly aware of pride and selfishness. Don't think less of yourself but think of yourself less. "Humble yourself in the sight of  The Lord and He shall lift you up." James 4:10.

5. SERVE THE LORD - Set your mind on eternal things and not on things on this earth. Never do anything to please anyone, even if that person is mom or dad, husband or wife, children or siblings, friends or relatives. "And whatsoever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of The Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him." Colossians 3:17.

Be the kind of woman who is supernaturally attractive because you spend quality time with The Lord. Strive to be like CHRIST and genuinely love GOD. I guarantee you that you will exude God's character and all of the qualities that will attract the man that your heart truly desires.

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Friday, 2 May 2014

More about me: Personality

My very close friends and family, more often than ever, always go on about how I am very loud and talkative which made me automatically assume that I was an extrovert.

However upon reflection I realised that, I am not very good with meeting new people, I am not a fan of crowds. I often let calls go through to voice mail. I express myself better through writing hence I was inspired to start a blog. I would rather stay indoors with my books and the internet than go out partying. I find it very difficult to fully open up to anyone. The worst thing ever and most brothers misunderstand me on this one, is when I have to tell a persisting brother to quit wasting his time on me. Most people assume my silence for ignorance. I hate being the center of attention with exception of my wedding celebration *excited* I am more of a thinker than a talker. I am an observer, very analytical and YES! my life is more interesting inside my head. I don't like competition. One of my favourite verse is 1 Timothy 2:11 "Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection."

After I came across this chat...


I happily concluded that, YES! I am an INTROVERT!