Monday, 30 June 2014

Monthly Review - June

A.K.A - 'The Campaign!'

Staying at home only gets better! Spending time with family is a blessing beyond measure, I now understand why God decided to have us all in small family units instead of just having one gigantic family. My lil brother and I have this new thing called 'the campaign' to see who will be the favourite child of the year (but our parents know nothing about it). We make sure we're always at our best behavior and when my mom wants something done we both jump at it. As much as this seems like a game or joke, it has made us closer to our parents and always willing to be at their service. In times like these, when the great tempter is working to destroy families, we should aim to do all it takes to maintain the love and unity in our families (and make sure you're having fun while you're at it).

My lil brother (Mandla) and I

Besides our 'crazy-fun & serious' campaign, June was again a good month. The Lord has been faithful. I pray for continued strength as we journey heavenward. 

Expectations for July *excited*

JULY! is a special month - Yes! I am a July baby and so is my dear sister. I am not really a birthday person but this time around I am pretty much excited about it. It's going to be my CROWN birthday *yipeeeeeeeee yay*

In 22 days, I will be turning 22, on the 22nd of July!

I have waited a life time to say that line.

I wish you all a happy July! May our loving and most gracious Father continue to shower His blessings on our lives and may we be drawn closer to Him through all our experiences, good or not so good ones as well.


Thursday, 26 June 2014

Musings of a Maiden!

There is a man out there! Yes, ONE! gentleman, and chances are, I have never met him (or maybe I have). I have been praying for him night and day, for sometime now. I realise he could be drowning in the big ocean of secular corruption and attempting to live godly in a society that is NOT God affirming. He could be surrounded by women who appear to be 'THE ONE' but he is at risk of severe heart breaks. He has the challenge of honoring God and his parents while emerging into manhood. I wish I could physically be there to pull him up when he falls, to encourage him when he stumbles, but I can only pray for him.

My heart warms up when I pray for him. I have the assurance that God will take care of my worries. His family, friends and circle of influence enter my prayers daily. I understand their influence will have an impact on the man he will become. 

His parents have a special place in my heart. I hope they have taught him to respect, protect and provide for his future wife and family. I hope his father (or father-figure) taught him to be a man and to love a woman. I trust that he is growing in statue and in wisdom, in favour with God and men, while he rests at the feet of Jesus. 

My prayer daily is for The Lord to work the same reforms in him that he is working with me. I am not perfect neither do I expect him to be perfect but our Christian faith entails that we should be striving for perfection. I know I sometimes stumble and fall, but I pray he has extraordinary strength. 

I wish I could do more for him, I wish I could be there for him, I wish I could share in his joys and sorrows. I wish, I wish, I wish BUT I can only PRAY for him. To my fellow single sisters:


"Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not. They are new every morning; Great is Thy faithfulness. "The Lord is my portion,” says my soul, “Therefore I hope in Him!” The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him. It is good that one should HOPE and wait QUIETLY for the salvation of the Lord."
(Lamentation 3:22-26)


Tuesday, 24 June 2014

Turning Strangers into Friends!

"Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewithal shall it be salted?...Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hid... Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and GLORIFY your Father which is in heaven." (Matthew 5:13-16)

Evangelism has more often than ever turned from introducing a friend to Jesus, to introducing them to a set of beliefs. People talk about hell more than they do of Heaven. We tell them about the Mark of the Beast before they even learn of the wondrous love of Jesus. We don't care about that person's well-being, it's as though we are in a hurry to make that person join our churches never minding whether or not the person has accepted or is willing to accept Christ as their personal Savior. 

Fear is a temporary motivator whereas love, on the other hand, can make you do crazy things. When you are introducing Jesus to people think of it this way, you are asking them to marry Him for eternity. Let's bring it back home, imagine a brother who believes a certain sister is their prospective future wife, then he goes up to her and says 'Hey, I want you to cook for me, wash my clothes, clean the house, have children for me and homeschool them, will you be my wife?' Though those are some of the duties of a wife, the lady even in her sleep will obviously turn down that type of proposal. However if the brother promises to love her, to provide for her, to carry out the priestly roles in the home and all the sweet things, she will be drawn to him and because of the love she will be more than willing to cook, clean and to submit to him. 

Likewise, when we think EVANGELISM! we should bare in mind that, people don't care what we know until they know that we care for them. We should, like Jesus did, build friendships first, we should mingle with them, learn of their interests, their worries, share in their joys and sorrows. Only then can we successfully introduce them to our Jesus. Evangelism and personal witnessing doesn't have to be a chore, it doesn't have to be something that is awkward, it doesn't have to be a burden. It can be a part of your life that is so natural, so much that, you can't help but be the LIGHT, you can't help but be the SALT. People will be able to spot you simply because you are in contrast with darkness. 

A final thought, if Jesus is your friend and has made a difference in your life, then you know enough to introduce Him to a friend. By being the LIGHT, the SALT, consistent in your Christian walk, you have the ability to turn strangers into friends - Friends for JESUS!!!

Oh, to be like Jesus more!

Monday, 23 June 2014

Why I became Adventist #1

'Why I became Adventist' series is finally here. *yipeeeee yay* I am super excited to share the first testimony from a friend - Thamsanqa Mawerera aka TeeCee but I call him Sanqa. Click here to read the preview/introduction of the series. I pray many will be blessed and encouraged!
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This is by no means meant to be a story for entertainment but I hope my story will encourage us to be more open about our faith and stand up for what we believe in!

A lot of us Adventists take being born into an Adventist family for granted and we have become too comfortable to the extent that we have lost sight and focus of why God put us on this earth. I really don't know if I should say I've had the privilege of being in the Adventist church and other churches but this is my story:

My spiritual journey has been nothing short of being a rollercoaster ride. Let me start by saying God wasn't joking when he said do not be unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14). My parents are both Christians which isn't a bad thing BUT my dad isn't Adventist. My mum has always been Adventist and like many Adventist girls out there dating non-Adventists guys, she thought she could get him to become a member of the Adventist church upon marriage but I don't blame her for that so before you think I'm condemning her I'm not. I respect my mother very much. My dad used to let her go to church on a Sabbath with no issues. Fast forward to when I was born, 17 August 1989 and started going to church a few years later. I loved the children's sermons, the classes and everything else about the Sabbath and it quickly grew on me.

As time went by, my dad stopped us from going to church on a Sabbath. Obviously as a kid I had a lot of questions regarding us not going to church but never got an answer, a satisfactory answer that is. With time we all got used to the idea of not going to church except my mum. She had to pretend to be fine with it just to make her husband 'happy'. By this time I was at a Catholic junior school and I was getting used to their doctrines. Then in 2002, I moved to an Anglican school for high school. Their doctrines weren't very different from Catholic doctrines so it didn't take me long to adjust but you can only imagine the confusion I had. All the Adventist teachings had evaporated, I started believing in worshipping on a Sunday then ended up not even liking the idea of going to church at all.


One day when I got home from school my mum was super excited, she told my sister and I, that our dad was now going to church then she paused for a little bit and said, 'on a Sunday.' I don't know how and why it triggered an 'oooh yeah but we believe in the seventh day Sabbath' in my mind but I also asked myself why we believed that and decided I'll study for myself and find out. Be that as it may I was happy my father was now going to church but we were still banned from going to church on a Sabbath and forced to go to church on Sunday. When I started prayerfully studying and seeking for God's truth and learning how God wants us to live and worship him, I became less keen on attending the Sunday church. I came to the understanding that Sunday isn't the biblical day of worship (see: Genesis 2:1-3; Exodus 20:8-11) 
and wasn't the day God rested but it was the day Jesus rose and there was no evidence in the bible that pointed to the fact that the holy Sabbath was changed from the seventh-day (Saturday) to the first day (Sunday). However, I was afraid to tell my father that Sunday isn't the right day of worship because he never wanted to hear anything of the sort.

After much prayer the Lord came through for us, my dad allowed us to resume attending church on Sabbath, on the condition that we would still have to attend his church on Sunday. We praised the Lord and continued in prayer. Then in 2008, I was truly convinced that Sunday isn't the day of worship and shared my conviction with my mother, sister and brother who also believed it to be true. My greatest challenge came when I decided to tell my dad that I won't be going to church on Sundays anymore. That took 2 whole years to do believe it or not because I was scared.

One Sunday morning in 2010 I decided to stay in bed and not get ready for church. My dad summoned me to the kitchen, when I saw him I could sense that he was angry. He asked why I had decided not to go to church. At that moment I remember feeling scared to even open my mouth fearing the worst then I said a quick silent prayer, sat down then confidently said to him, "because it isn't the right day of worship." he just stopped eating and looked at me and didn't say a word but I wasn't done yet. "If you show me where in the Bible it says that we should worship on the 1st day Sunday and not the 7th day Sabbath then I'll gladly go get ready for church and forget about the Sabbath," I said. At this point I was feeling very confident of what I was talking about because I felt that God was with me at that very moment. Everyone else was just looking at me surprised that I just sprung this on my dad. This infuriated my dad even more but I was expecting it and then he started shouting at me and even called me a rebel. He started to blame my mum but I jumped to her defense and said it's not her fault and that it was my own conviction but little did I know that it paved the way for everyone to speak out and stand up for their belief and faith.

From that day I've never looked back at being an Adventist. My older sister, little brother and I were later baptized (while our mom got re-baptised) into the Seventh-Day Adventist Church. My prayer and our prayer as a family is that God speaks to our dad so that he can join us in worshipping on God's holy day because he still goes to church on Sunday of which I'm still thankful that he goes to church.

I'll leave you with this. I strongly believe God gave us the courage and words to say to my dad when we were scared to tell him about the Sabbath and why we worship on that day. God hears and answers prayers so don't ever give up on prayer. You might be married or dating/courting an unbeliever or being threatened by relatives that they will disown you if you join the SDA church just keep praying to God that He guides your footsteps and also talks to those around you that they might also be convicted and follow God's truths. Isaiah 40:8 says, "The grass whithers, the flower fades; but the Word of our God will stand forever."

God bless you all!

Sunday, 22 June 2014

Keep your child on a Leash!

He 'snitched' on me!

One of the reasons I decided to be a stay at home daughter was to spend enough time with my family, learning of each one's strengths, tolerating their weaknesses and enjoying the bonds of a small, close family unit. So far I can testify to this being one of the best decisions I ever made in my life, being an aspiring wife, mother, homemaker (among other things), I have learnt a great deal from my parent's marriage and how they relate to each other and to us. I remember not so long ago, telling my dad that I don't ever want to get married (this was after seeing the miserable living conditions of most marriages of today), but today I say, if marriage is going to be exactly as the one I live under, I will wait patiently for that day when the Lord unites me with my Adam. 

Background: He 'snitched' on me as the sub-title implies, so this is what happened: last Sabbath after the morning services I went over to my friend's place for lunch. My mom and her singing group had been invited to minister in song the whole day at another church, so I couldn't tell her about my lunch plans. Anyway so I spent the rest of the day catching up with my friends (in the Lord), then they dropped me off at home afterwards, as instructed by their mom. When we got to my home, my dad got out of the gate while we were still saying bye to each other. Then my two friends got out of the car to greet him and I introduced them to him. We said our final goodbyes then I went into the house. I was expecting him to ask where I had gone to and what we spent the whole afternoon doing but he never asked (in my head I screamed VICTORY! finally off the leash). The following day after breakfast, my mom asked exactly what I thought my dad would ask the previous night. I thought, yea, RIGHT! he 'snitched' on me alright! then I told her everything and her response was, "okay, next time just give us a heads up before you go anywhere." Now I know that the 'little' things do matter, what one parent knows the other will know, what one parent doesn't address the other will and most importantly COMMUNICATION is key!

Moral of the story: While the Bible does not go into detail outlining exactly how each parent-child problem is dealt with, it does offer general guidelines that enable one to find through their application the right direction.

One such guideline is suggested in Luke 2:51, a direct statement of the condition existing in the family of Jesus Christ. The passage reads, "And he went down with them and came to Nazareth and he was subject to them". The "he" in the passage was Jesus and the "them" was Mary and Joseph. The broad principle illustrated in this passage teaches that parents are given by God the authority to direct, guide, teach and discipline their children. If the son of God accepted the authority of earthly parents how much more ought the sons and daughters of men be under the authority of their parents.

The next principle illustrated by this statement in Luke shows that children are to accept their direction and to be subject to their parents.


To provide that direction for their children, parents must take the job of being parents seriously. Being a parent is much more than fulfilling a biological function. It means being concerned about every aspect of the child's growth and development. It means caring where the child is and who his friends are. It means knowing his interests and encouraging right and proper ones and discouraging - even forbidding - those that are inappropriate or dangerous. For a parent to say "I can't do anything with my child" is an admission of "I don't know how to be a parent".

I am super grateful for my godly parents and for the wisdom they are impacting on us daily. I pray The Lord will one day bless me with a marriage like my parent's or even better. To many parents (or future parents) out there, being a parent is neither easy nor difficult but SERIOUS! There certainly isn't a one way approach to successful parenthood but you can be assured of VICTORY! if much time is spent at the foot of the cross learning of the wondrous love of Jesus.


Thursday, 19 June 2014

Even so come Lord Jesus!

Are these the last days? 

When thieves come at night, it's not that much of a shocker because the bible points to that fact in Matthew 24. However when people openly practice day light robbery, it becomes a lot worrying. 

Disclaimer: I am not saying stealing at night is a good thing or excusable. 

Background: At our home, the most my dad ever had to pay for our monthly water bills was USD $30 which is equivalent to about 300rands. However these past two months (April and May) our bills suddenly went up to about USD $200 and USD $300, respectively (and to also note, we had the most water cuts in these two months, plus we generally use the borehole more). My parents then decided they wouldn't pay anything at all. Then the June bill miraculously dropped down to USD$25. Seeing the bill was reasonable my dad paid the bill off. Then yesterday the municipal people came over to our house wanting to disconnect our water supply because we were owing USD $732. Right! We we all like from where though? But how? 

Nonetheless, as much as we were all shocked, we were definitely not surprised. The bible tells us in 1 Timothy 3:1-5 that, "...in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be...without natural affection, truce breakers, FALSE ACCUSERS..." Though it hurts, these things have to happen, the words of Christ have to be fulfilled before he could show up in the clouds. Greater tribulations are yet to come, but we should always rejoice and give thanks to our Father above, knowing that the more we see these things, the closer is the return of our Savior Jesus, it is 'even at the doors" (Matthew 24:33). 

Great is His faithfulness, for revealing all these things to us before they even happen.

Moral of the Story: "We know not the hour of the Master’s appearing, yet signs all foretell that the moment is nearing, when He shall return ’tis a promise most cheering, But we know not the hour." However, "there's light for the wise who are seeking salvation, there's truth in the Book of divine revelation, each prophecy points to the great consummation." This should be our hope and prayer that, "we'll watch and we’ll pray, with our lamps trimmed and burning, we'll work and we’ll wait till the Master’s returning, we'll sing and rejoice, every omen discerning," despite the fact that, "we know not the hour."

JESUS IS COMING SOON! ARE YOU READY?


Wednesday, 18 June 2014

Random Ramblings: Are Lawyers really Liars?

"Lawyers are liars!"

Is the most common phrase that many 'dedicated' Christians use against or to discourage anyone pursuing a career in law or legal studies. I have had these three most hurtful words said to me a couple of times. Though I never spoke out at that time, the constant repetition of that phrase made me think twice about my passion, my dream, my wish to one day be a qualified lawyer. I got to a point where if I was asked what I was studying, I would lower my voice, say Law, then quickly change the topic before I received any negative comments about it. Or in the case that the question was asked in a text or email, my response would always be defensive. I really felt as though I was sinning against my God for choosing Law as a career. After applying for my postgraduate, my prayer daily was for the Lord to make my application unsuccessful, I just couldn't take it anymore. I was willing and ready to just forget about my dream. Lo and behold, the Lord answered my prayers and my application was unsuccessful by 0.95% (if my memory serves me right). As much as I was 'happy' or meant to be, I was seriously screwed, I went through some major depression - all because I cared more about what people said and thought!

Upon reflection (Yes! I think a lot), I realized among the greatest Protestant reformers were the likes of Martin Luther and John Calvin, who were lawyers. Then my question was, could God have used liars to fulfill his cause? It's true some lawyers do defend criminals and win cases for them, but assuming that all lawyers do that is inaccurate. I have heard stories of accountants who stole money, so is it safe to assume all accountants are thieves? Or Pastors who committed sexual sin, so are all pastors adulterers? I believe the answer is NO! to both those questions, so the same should apply to lawyers as well. 

Jesus gave us a great commission, he said go into all the world and preach. Paul also said in one of his letters that, to them different talents or gifts were given. If you are a writer, reader, speaker and have a special place for legal studies in your heart then surely the Lord intended that you go the Law/Lawyer route. It doesn't pay listening to what people say or think, it only brings about pain and confusion (talking from experience). Not everyone is moved by the right spirit to open their mouth and talk, so when you aren't sure of anything in your life, just go down on your kneels and ask God to give you the gift of discernment. 


Birthday wishes to a Brother!

Recently The Lord has taught me that the bond that links your true family is not ONLY one of blood but of respect, genuine care and concern, support in times of need, sympathy in times of sorrow, encouragement in difficult times and the warm feeling of knowing that the next person is praying for you. 

I have learnt a lot from this particular individual - from true humility to the joys that come with trusting fully in God. I have also learnt the value of true and genuine care and concern outside the bounds of my blood linked family. I will forever thank God for blessing me with a brother not from the same mother nor father, but from the greater family of God. His life has been a blessing and I know many can testify to this. 

Birthday Blessings Brother Khobatha!


I pray you'll have a wonderful day filled with God's sweet grace and that you'll feel His presence more and behold His loving face. I pray that as you walk with Him through each new day He gives, you'll know His blessings more abundantly and treasure the days you live.

Remain in the Lord!

Tuesday, 17 June 2014

He finally popped the question!

Before your dear mind wanders and races to assume what this post is about, please hold that thought until you have read till the end of the post. Remember Philippians 4:8 says "...whatsoever things are TRUE...think on these things."

Anyway as the title of this post alludes, Mr *Only God Knows Who He Is* finally popped the question. The one that leads to courtship, I'm not sure if it's called 'popping the question' though. Nonetheless, imagine the joy in my heart, the smiles on our faces, and all we did at that moment was smile and held hands, still maintaining a considerable distance between us (room more than enough for the Holy Spirit). Then sadly I woke up before I could say anything, but I am very sure it was going to be a YES! *still smiling*

I have been having these 'random' (for lack of a better word) dreams since I got the conviction to start praying for my future hubby last year (2013). Shockingly enough it always appears to be the same person. The most surprising thing is, when I had stopped praying for him, sometime this year, the dreams about him also vanished. Then when I resumed this month (June 2014), lo and behold, I just got another one of those dreams, a much more exciting one this time around.

When I woke up at 11:15pm, the first question that came to my mind was "Lord is this really from you?" Then immediately I was reminded of a 'how I knew he was my husband' story/experience that my very own sister went through (YES! you sis Thandi, I'm expecting a comment on the post as soon as you see this...lol). The Lord 'hinted' to her through dreams. Now the question in this not very naive young lady's mind remains, "Lord is this really from you?"

Whether or not I know who the person is, will remain a mystery but WATCH THE SPACE for more UPDATES as the Lord answers or reveals more light on my question. 

Side-note: If you ever wondered why I love my sleep so much, this is why - the Lord mostly speaks to me this way (not only about future hubby) but about anything, including some of my convictions, decisions I have to make etc. Of course this happens after a season of prayer of seeking the Lord's will and guidance. 

[Disclaimer: this is not to say or imply that I am now a prophet or a fortune teller, that sees things before they happen.]

#TestimonyInProgress!


Monday, 16 June 2014

Guest Post: Thoughts on Modesty - Part 2

Thoughts on Modesty, Guest Post by Reagan Ramm continued... Click here if you haven't read Part 1.

From my perspective, many girls don’t seem to understand the fact that dressing immodestly is not neutral. Rather, it’s a subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) attack against their brothers in Christ. If a girl knows the potential negative effects dressing immodestly can have on other people, and yet she does it anyway, she isn’t “expressing herself” or “just trying to be comfortable.” She is actually engaging in a form of assault.

Perhaps I can explain with an example:

As a general rule, men are visually oriented, and women are emotion focused. Say I was very smooth and charming. If I flirted with a girl, said all the right words to her, and gave her a lot of attention, would I really not be responsible at all if she happened to develop feelings for me? If I broke her heart by telling her I was never interested and that I was just trying to be nice, am I free of blame for the pain inflicted? I would say no.

Just as men often play with the emotions of women to manipulate them into getting something they want from them, women do the same thing to men with how they dress. Love is doing what is best for someone, so when someone intentionally does something that is not good for someone else, that is the complete opposite of love.

I’m not saying all girls who dress immodestly are trying to manipulate men, nor do I believe all men who accidentally lead women on when there is no interest are intentionally manipulating. Of course not. But in both cases, those who inflict unintended harm still bear part of the blame, and those who knowingly cause harm, are guilty of assault.

As Christians, we are called to die to ourselves, and to put the good of others above our own. This is what Paul means in chapter 6 of his letter to the Galatians. We are to bear one another’s burdens (put the good of others above our own) and yet, not demand that others bear our own burdens (die to ourselves). Most definitely, we should not add to the burdens of others.

Therefore, I really believe the verse this commenter cited actually supports modesty. Those girls who don’t like dressing modestly? Well, don’t expect others to bear that burden for you. Instead, bear the burdens of others. Plus, immodest dressing—when done without regard to others--is a sin, so I don’t think anyone should have to put up with that.

While most people in our culture do not believe that the “Golden Rule” is morally required, nearly everyone can agree that the “Silver Rule” is a moral requisite (Do not do unto others what you would not have them do unto you). Dressing immodestly doesn’t even meet the Silver Rule. If you were trying to give up a smoking addiction, you wouldn’t want someone smoking right in front of you. If you were on a diet, you wouldn’t want someone to eat chocolate cake in front of you. If you were spiritually weak in the area of lust, you wouldn’t want someone waving temptation in your face.

If the Golden Rule seems like too much for you, perhaps you could at least try to live by the Silver Rule, and avoid harming people if you can? Immodesty is not neutral. It is an attack.

As I hope I made clear in this post, modesty isn’t really about what you wear (though that’s very important). Modesty is about the heart. Do you value the good of others above what you want? Do you value the comfort of others over your own comfort? Or do you think that you should be able to do what you want no matter the potential harm to others?

If you are modest (humble) you will care more about others than yourself. If you have a modest heart, you will dress modestly because you won’t want to cause anyone discomfort or lead them into sin. It’s that simple.

C.S. Lewis once said, “True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” If I may rephrase this, “True modesty isn’t about covering up your body because it’s bad; it is presenting yourself in a way that is respectful and loving to others, while also displaying your innate dignity as a woman.”  

However, even if you realize you really don’t care about other people, and you aren’t modest, you still should dress modestly. There are many advantages that come with dressing modestly, and disadvantages that come with immodest dress. If you don’t believe me, I recommend you read this post that I wrote a while back.

If Jesus died so we wouldn’t have to, and to save us from sin…then perhaps girls and women could wear skirts and shorts just a little bit longer, shirts with necklines that aren’t quite so low, and non skin-tight clothing to give their brothers-in-Christ a little help in a world full of temptation? I don’t think this is too much to ask.

Please show yourself and others a little respect, and dress modestly. Who knows, you may even like it.

Reagan Ramm
A well-thought out opinion by a young Christian gentlemen. He has shared so many other brilliant thought-provoking ideas on his blog - link: reaganramm.com - Be sure to go there as soon as yesterday! 

Yea, right! Its that DEEP!

Stay Blessed :)

Guest Post: Thoughts on Modesty - Part 1

Today my recently discovered blogging buddy, Reagan Ramm, is sharing on Modesty from a guy's or rather biblical point of view *excited* He is responding to the comment below: 

Why should a woman be responsible for the actions and or thoughts of men? Why can't we as women be able to go on living our lives without being pegged as moral brigades for our "brothers"? Galatians 6:5 for each will have to bear his own load."
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This is a common objection I’ve heard given in response to those who champion modesty, but is this a legitimate concern? Are women really supposed to be responsible for the thoughts of men?

Short answer: No, of course not. We are responsible for what we allow our minds to dwell on. While I believe modesty greatly benefits those who practice it, and the others around them, in ways that go beyond merely protecting men from temptation, it is still the case that we are each responsible for our own actionsIf a man sins due to immodest dress, that is his problemHowever, that does not mean the immodestly dressed woman is free from responsibility.

Ideally, when a man encounters a woman dressed immodestly, his spiritual development will be to the point where giving into sin in that situation holds no allure. Rather than feeling temptation, perhaps instead the man will feel compassion toward the woman who has chosen to represent herself in a way that communicates disrespect to herself and others. A woman dressing immodestly is never an excuse for sin on the part of a man.

Long answer: First of all, the verse this particular commenter cited to defend her argument is taken out of context. If you read back just three verses prior, Paul says, “Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ,” Galatians 6:2.

What? Paul is contradicting himself in the same paragraph? No, not at all. This is why context is key. I would encourage this commenter to go back and read Galatians chapter 5 (or just re-read the whole letter). In the larger context, Paul is telling us to “love” and “serve one another,” Galatians 5:13.

Leading into chapter 6, Paul is telling us to put the good of others above our own needs and wants. This is why it makes sense when Paul says, “Bear one another’s burdens,” and a few verses later when Paul says, “For each one will bear his own load,” he is saying that—while we are to help one anotherultimately we are all accountable before God for our own actions. Bear the burdens of others, but don’t be a burden.

So while this commenter meant this verse as an argument against having to be concerned about others, this passage actually supports the concept of modesty and the idea that we should care about the good of others more than what we want. So in that respect, women do share some of the responsibility if others stumble as a result of their clothing (or lack thereof).Everyone has their own burden; don’t make carrying it harder on people.

Christianity is a corporate faith. We are THE body of Christ, and THE church. We are not the bodies of Christ or the churches of Christ. Modern Evangelicalism has certainly watered down this concept, and our Western culture of individualism and “following your heart” also have infiltrated Christianity to a large extent, creating the idea that we are free from other people.

Many like to say, “this is just between me and God.” Or, “How I dress is just between me and God.” This is code for: “I’m going to do whatever I feel like.” But we don’t live in a bubble. Nothing is just between us and God. Everything we do impacts those around us, and you’re not going to find any verses in the Bible saying you should just do whatever you feel like. Instead, as in Galatians and every page of the New Testament, we are called to love and serve one another. This is Christianity at its foundation. Love God and your neighbor as yourself. It seems many Christians have come to understand their freedom in Christ to mean “I can do whatever I want.” This is not Biblical at all. We are free to do whatever we want, yes, but only as long as what we want is what is good for others.  

This misunderstanding of Christian liberty is definitely not a new problem. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 8:9-12, “But take care that this liberty of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak. For if someone sees you, who have knowledge, dining in an idol’s temple, will not his conscience, if he is weak, be strengthened to eat things sacrificed to idols? For through your knowledge he who is weak is ruined, the brother for whose sake Christ died. And so, by sinning against the brethren and wounding their conscience when it is weak, you sin against Christ.”

As always, context is essential. To put things mildly, the 1 Corinthian church was not doing so well at the time of Paul’s writing. One of the problems they were having was that some in the church—realizing that they have freedom in Christ and that idols aren’t real gods—found it okay to eat meat, while others thought that eating the meat sacrificed to idols was giving these false gods credence and legitimacy. Paul is saying that—even though it’s true there is nothing wrong with eating meat sacrificed to idols—not everyone has this knowledge. So rather than causing those who believe eating the meat is wrong to now think it’s okay to participate in idol worship, Paul will give up his right to eat meat sacrificed to idols.

We can apply this same concept to modesty. Even if there is nothing inherently wrong with dressing immodestly, if there are those who could see you dressing immodestly and be harmed, then you no longer have that right. You should give up that freedom. If you don’t, and those who are weak are “ruined” (fall into sin) as a result of your dress, then you are sinning against your brother, and you are sinning against Christ!

In Christ, we are free to do whatever we want, so long as what we want is what is good for others. Or, as St. Augustine said: “Love, and do what you will.” We are not free to harm others.

However, the case of the meat sacrificed to idols and dressing immodestly are not quite the same. In the case Paul talks about, there is nothing wrong with eating meat. Dressing immodestly, on the other hand, we have clear direction from the Bible that this IS wrong(1 Timothy 2:9)

So if we are told to avoid doing neutral activities such as eating meat so as not to potentially harm others, how much more should we avoid doing negative things to avoid potentially harming others? Not only could your brothers in Christ be tempted to sin by your immodest dress, but perhaps your sisters in Christ could be tempted to start dressing more immodestly by your example.

Click here to read Part 2 - the conclusion of the whole matter!


Musings of a Confused Girl

I got a war in my mind.
My feelings confuse me.
My head says, "who cares" but my heart whispers "you do."
I know exactly what not to do BUT that's what I feel like doing.
My life is very simple yet I insist on making it complicated.
The problem is, I think too much!
I want 'now now' answers to my prayers.

Just when I think I am there, the Lord shows me yet another weakness.
He magnifies my imperfections to get me out of my comfort zone.
The next step always feels like starting from zero.
It always appears as though no progress is being made.
Sometimes I think being Christian is the hardest thing.
It's a constant battle in the mind.
A battle against self. 

Whatever it will take, I am going to fight the good fight.
I will endure until the end.
I know it will not be easy but definitely worth it.
I have heaven in my heart and can't miss it for anything.
I can't wait for that glorious day of reunion.
When Jesus will pronounce the words "Well done thou good and faithful servant...enter now into the joy of the Lord."
What a day that will be!


"Prone to wander Lord I feel it, prone to leave the God I love.  
Here is my heart!
Take and seal it, seal it for the courts above!"

#MidNightPrayer!


Sunday, 15 June 2014

Knowing the True Church!

How can one know the True Church?

I have noticed a rapid proliferating rate of church denominations within the Christian circles. These, varying in beliefs from left to right, from extremely liberal to extremely conservative. Some are large organizations while others are small splinter groups with comparatively few adherents. However, ALL have one point in common - each group believes that it is the True Church of God.

What a confusing situation! 

I can only imagine what a struggle it would be for anyone to actually identify the one church that would be in perfect harmony with ALL the biblical characteristics of God's True Church. I was then convicted to study more on this topic because I personally believe that, since there is ONE Chirst, ONE Spirit, ONE Bible, there certainly has to be ONE True Church, if we all claim to be Christians (Christ-like).

Suppose someday you should look for such a body, what should you expect to find? What should it teach? What should be it's standard?


From my experience, my first and most crucial advice is to go down on your kneels and ask God to direct you to His true church. Then secondly your Bible can be a lamp to your feet and a light to your path. Thirdly, below are some specifications that I have learnt as I was studying my bible:

1. It will radiate the love of God - "By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another." ~ John 13:35.
* In other words, love expressed in kindness, graciousness, tolerance and compassion, is the most conspicuous sign of the True Church.

2. It will exalt Jesus Christ as the Son of God - "Whosoever shall confess that Jesus is the Son of God, God dwelleth in him, and he in God." ~ 1 John 4:15.
* And what is true of the individual is true also of the religious group. Unless it exalts Jesus Christ as the Son of God and confesses His divinity before men, it is not and cannot be the True Church.

3. It will honor the whole Bible as the Word of God - "All scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work." ~ 2 Timothy 3:16.
* Such was the attitude of the early Christians to the Holy Scriptures. They revered them as the inspired word of God. So will the True Church.

4. It will regard the Ten Commandments as the holy law of God - " By this we may be sure that we know him," says the apostle John, "if we keep his commandments. He who says 'I know him' but disobeys his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him; but whoever keeps his word, in him truly love for God is perfected. By this we may be sure that we are in him: he who says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked." ~ 1 John 2:3-6.
* One great purpose of His first advent was to "magnify the law, and make it honorable" (Isaiah 42:21), and such will be the purpose of His True Church in every age. Indeed, it is said of His people in the last days of earth's history: "Here are they that keep the commandments of God and the faith of Jesus." (Revelation 14:12).

5. It will observe the seventh day as God's Sabbath - It is inconceivable that God's True Church could keep any other day than His day. And His day, as your Bible so clearly points out, is the seventh day (see: Genesis 2:1-3; Exodus 20:8; Luke 23:54-56; Luke 24:1-3)
* Observance of the seventh day is, in fact, an outstanding sign of the True Church. "It is a sign," God says, "between me and you throughout your generations; that ye may know that I am The Lord that doth sanctify you" (Exodus 31:13).
* This is repeated in Ezekiel 20:12: "I gave them my Sabbaths, to be a sign between me and them, that might know that I am The Lord that sanctify them."
* So the true Sabbath is not only a memorial of Creation but also a sanctification. It was designed to remind God's people of His power to create and redeem. Consequently, it is a most fitting sign of His True Church in every age, throughout all generations.

6. It will be modest in appearance, gentle in spirit - Says the apostle Peter, remembering the precious days by Galilee, "As he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation." Then he bids women not to overdress, but rather to put on "ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price." To men he says, "Love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing" ~ 1 Peter 3:1-9.
* This is the sort of church God wants church today. It's members will manifest the same beautiful spirit both in their private lives and corporate activities.

7. It will look eagerly for Christ's return - The church that is "zealous for good deeds" will look with longing for the fulfillment of the blessed hope, "the appearing of the glory of our great God and Saviour Jesus Christ" ~ Titus 2:13. 
* It will be ever on the alert for the promised signs of His return (Luke 21:25-27).
* Belief and great emphasis on Christ's second advent is indeed one of the most vital marks of the True Church.

8. It will have a world program - It cannot help it. Ringing in it's ears will be the Master's command: "Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature" (Mark 16:15). Nor will it ever forget His prediction: "This gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in all the world for a witness unto all nations; and then shall the end come" (Matthew 24:14). 
* With a mission program that encircles the globe, it's members will dedicate themselves and their all to completing the proclamation of "the everlasting gospel" in order that their beloved Lord may soon return in glory.
* Fearlessly, daringly, confidently they will cry "with a loud voice" to all mankind, "Fear God, and give glory to him, for the hour of his judgment is come: and worship him that made heaven, and earth, and the sea and the fountains of water" (Revelation 14:7).

If you should hear this message, look at it's messengers and their manner of life. Examine their credentials in the light of your bible. See whether they fit in with the eight identifying marks set forth in this post. If they do, let your heart leap with joy. You may well have discovered God's True Church, the spiritual home you have been seeking. 

I pray that The Lord will lead you into His Truth, for His will is for us to worship Him in TRUTH and in Spirit.

Happy True Church Hunting!!!! (among many other 'true' churches.)


Thursday, 12 June 2014

My Music Turning Point

Growing up I was never really a music person. I was one of those kids who never found BeyoncĂ©, Destiny's Child or The Spice Girls fascinating. I always used to wonder how my friends managed to sing along - word to word, to some songs that I had no clue about. However, because I didn't want to be the odd one out, the weirdo or uncool, I had no choice but to blend in with the crowd and appear to be on the same tip. I would spend hours on MTV Base, Trace and Channel O trying by all means to master the words of every new song. 

After torturing myself for years, I decided I would just give it up. I would just stick to not being a music person never mind what anyone would say or think. Now as I look back, I am thankful I made that decision. When I finally heard sermons (a good one was Distraction Dilemma by Christian Berdahl) and read books on the effects of music for good or for ill to our spirituality, it wasn't a big jump for me to completely do away with secular music i.e those few songs that I thought were harmless (P.S - I used to love 'break up' songs, a lot disturbing, now that I am thinking about it). 

Anyway once I got rid of my 'break up' songs, I knew I had to replace that gap with some form of music that would draw me closer to God. The sermon I linked up above encouraged me to not only pay particular attention to the lyrics but to the melody and rhythm of a song as well. It was just a blessing and a half, I would, with no doubt, recommend it to anyone who is willing to glorify God in the type of music they listen to. It was a real eye opener, to say the lest. I had no clue music was that much complicated and can greatly influence your eternal destiny, YES! it's that DEEP!

Moral of the story: Please do take time to watch the presentation.

"Music was made to serve a holy purpose, to lift the thoughts to that which is pure, noble, and elevating, and to awaken in the soul devotion and gratitude to God. What a contrast between the ancient custom and the uses to which music is now too often devoted!" ~ MYP 293.1

"When turned to good account, music is a blessing, but it is often made one of Satan’s most attractive agencies to ensnare souls. When abused, it leads the unconsecrated to pride, vanity, and folly. When allowed to take the place of devotion and prayer, it is a terrible curse." ~ MYP 295.1

* MYP - Messages To Young People by Ellen G. White


Tuesday, 10 June 2014

Guest Post: Stamping him your Future Hubby!


My first Guest Post! *excited* This post was written by a lovely lady Phylicia Masonheimer. She is sharing on some of the dangers we put ourselves as young ladies while we 'claim' to be waiting on the Lord.  
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In the wake of the purity and courtship movements, many young Christian women are dedicating their hearts to God and pursuing intentional, God-honoring relationships in lieu of recreational dating. While this pursuit is admirable, there is danger of a pendulum swing. Since relationships and marriage are valued by these girls, it is easy to create an idol out of romance, worshiping at the altar of a man they haven't met. Unreasonable expectations and unrealistic hopes pepper years that could have been much more fruitful. Girls put life, career, and college on hold while they wait for a man to come on the scene - shortchanging the skills and experience they could have brought to a marriage.

How can girls who dedicate to higher standards of love and purity keep their hearts balanced? As a woman who didn't date in high school and is now married to a wonderful man, I see where I made many mistakes. But I also see where God redeemed those mistakes for the beautiful romance my husband gave me. Below are some things I learned, shared with you, per Nontie's request.

When we like a guy, we are in danger of doing three things:

1. We make him an idol.

"All who fashion idols are nothing, and the things they delight in do not profit. Their witnesses neither see nor know, that they may be put to shame. Who fashions a god or casts an idol that is profitable for nothing? Behold, all his companions shall be put to shame, and the craftsmen are only human." (Isaiah 44:9-10)
The craftsmen are only human. We are only human! We don't know the best choice for us. We don't know what a guy is like until we have spent time with him as a friend. Placing him on a pedestal of attention steals attention from the one who really deserves it: our Savior. Making up scenarios in our heads, imagining conversations, and creating false expectations for a relationship with a guy focus our minds on the wrong things. What we focus on is what we worship. Let's keep it Christ.

2. We set up false expectations.

"But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." (Matt. 6:33)
"Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth." (2 Tim. 2:15)
When we fixate on someone, we make plans that may never come to fruition. It is out of our control. These plans contain the human variable; a person who owes us nothing and can do whatever he wants. Plans centralized in a person will fail, but plans founded on a God who knows the future will bring hope (Jer. 29:11). We should be busy about the plan of God for our lives, to be a worker who is not ashamed of her actions and emotions but is actively serving her Lord.


3. We try to play God's part.
"Our God is in the heavens; he does all that he pleases." (Psalm 115:3)
“I know that you can do all things, and that no purpose of yours can be thwarted." (Job 42:2)
  
"The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps." (Prov. 16:9)
When we fixate on a person, we in essence tell God, "I've got this! I know this person is the answer to my prayers. I am going to spend my time thinking about him, dreaming about a future, and making tentative plans in case you come through on my terms." We would save ourselves a lot of disappointment if we let God be God. We  plan the broad way we go - dedicating our relationships to the Lord - and still try to establish our own steps to get there. God wants to have both our ways AND our steps along the way. 

There is nothing wrong with having emotions. In fact, it is dangerous to tamp down and ignore the feelings within our hearts - eventually they will come out, sometimes in the worst of ways. We have to be honest with ourselves and with God about our hopes and feelings, commit them to Him, and spend our time not dreaming about a man, but working for our God. 

We have the standard laid out for us. We know what we can be doing - but what if the emotions are still there? What do you do when you like a man in a special way?

1. Do your best NOT to 'like' him.
I know - it sounds ridiculous. You must let him go, not imagine anything with or about him, and not over think what he says or does. This sounds like a high order! Instead, direct your energies to praying about him every day and then pray for your future husband, wherever HE is. Because very likely they aren't the same man!



The reason we need to not like these gents is because we aren't going to be ourselves in this current state of mind. When we are able to let him go - even be content with him liking another girl - only then can we be in a place allowing us to be his friend without being nervous. He will see the real 'you' and can act on it if he chooses.

2. Set him free and focus.

It's not fun to think about relinquishing our perceived control, but it's very freeing once you get to this point. I have found that to make that mental shift from 'liking' someone to 'setting him free' I had to find something else with which to consume my mind.
This was why I poured myself into studying how to manage a home and advance in my career. Instead of focusing on liking him or when you'll see him next, think about who you want to be when you marry your husband. Then make a list of what you  need to do to get there.

The more we focus on cultivating skills, the more ready we will be when God DOES bless us.

3. Invest your talents.

The parable of the talents is a sobering one because it illustrates what many women do with their hearts. I've seen many a young woman wonder why she can't get a quality guy or even get asked on a date, when she has little to nothing to offer a good man in the way of character or skill. It's a sad burial of worthy talent.


Are you burying your talents because you're afraid? Are you afraid of pursuing your dreams because you want a boyfriend so badly? Are you planning your life around a man? This is idolatry, girls, and I know it well. We work for one Man and one only: Jesus Christ. Lucky for us - He's perfect!

You can bury your talents under a crush or you can put them to work, and when the Master comes he will see them and reward you. Someday your husband will praise you for your work and investment. Let your future husband find you busy, and you'll be happier! You won't be waiting for the next time you see a guy you like, or disappointed when he's not interested.  You will be adding skill upon skill that puts you in high demand.

Guys do notice when a girl can do things, and they do think about what they ultimately want in a wife.  It's our job to make sure that when they look, they find it in us!

Finally, your role as future wife and mother is your highest calling and requires the most preparation. Anyone can be trained to work a job. Anyone can go to college and get a degree. When we are developing feelings for a man, we must then develop the skills to support the feelings, or we aren't worth his time.

Self-control begins in our minds. If we can master self-control (with Christ's help) before we are in a relationship, we will have a much easier time when we ARE in a relationship. We must keep our minds fixed on Christ and the role, life, and responsibilities He currently has in front of us. It might be fun to obsess about a guy because your friends say he likes you or your heart jumps at the sight of him - but these obsessions can easily turn into idolatry.  Ask yourself: how disappointed would I be to find out he had a girlfriend? If that question rattles you, it's time to let go of the 'perceived control' and commit him to God in prayer. Rolling him around in your mind will only cause you heartache if the relationship never becomes a reality.

Knowing God is the most rewarding relationship we will ever have, but the devil wants us to believe God is not satisfying. He wants us to focus on human relationships, where we can fail and make mistakes, damage our hearts and become bitter. But when we focus on God first, our human relationships are protected by holiness - and the devil can't have his way! Keep your heart in God's hands where it is safest. He will give it to the right man, at the right time - always. 

God bless.

Adorable picture of
Phylicia
and her dear hubby!



Phylicia Masonheimer
[This post was based off two posts on my site, 'I Like Him. Now What?' and 'Are You My Future Husband?']







This post is linked up at:
The Modest Mom Blog
Woman to Woman Blog


Monday, 9 June 2014

Random Ramblings: Country Living!

Country Living! 

My heart rejoices at the sound of those two words. Looking at the current state of life in the cities, the intense passion for money getting, the whirl of excitement and pleasure seeking, the thirst for display, the luxury and extravagance, all are forces that, with the great masses of mankind, are turning the mind from life’s true purpose. Many are so distracted! They have lost sight of God, the phrase 'Jesus is coming SOON' has lost it's meaning, it now sounds like a broken record. People just don't care anymore, YOLO! is the next big thing. Yes! you only live once, but who are you living for? Are you glorifying God? When God looks at your life, does he say to the devil 'has thou considered my servant [insert your name], that there is none like him, a perfect and upright man' like he said about Job?

Once we are separated from worldly customs and excitements, our hearts are drawn closer to God through nature. The presence of God would be amplified and we would learn to depend wholly on him. This is exactly why I marvel at the thought of Country Living!


Country Living also entails being less dependent on the next person. For example the use of natural remedies to avoid having to rush to the doctor every time your body decides to throw tantrums at you. 

Anyway here is a recipe to making your own TOOTHPASTE, I haven't tried it yet BUT a friend of mine has and was super excited about it. 

1 heaped tsp of activated charcoal

3 tsp of coconut oil

1 tbsp of baking powder

About 50 drops of peppermint essential oil

Mix the charcoal and baking powder thoroughly first. Then add the coconut oil and finally the peppermint oil. Mix well, and you should have a thick paste. :)

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Sunday, 8 June 2014

Natural Remedy: Tried and tested!

Finger Millet Porridge!

Finger Millet also known as Rapoko or Zviyo in Shona, is a big part of many rural homes' diet. It is scientifically one of the most nourishing grains in Africa. Though not proven scientifically, finger millet is believed to be more nutritious compared to maize meal.


Now on to the real deal behind this post!

Finger millet, is an excellent remedy for tummy problems, eating a meal with finger millet will help you feel better. 

Now to my sisters who have menstrual pain issues, eating finger millet porridge regularly will help make the pains disappear, YES! like completely go away, even the minor pains (talking from experience). You don't have to eat it everyday, in my case, as per family tradition we have it every Sunday, so just once a week is fine. 

It is also a good source of dietary fiber among other benefits. BUT yeah my sisters please do take note, pills only help relieve pain for that moment, the next minute it's back to square one or rather zero. 

Happy Cramp-free Months!

#TeamNaturalRemedies

#Thanking_God_For_Wisdom_From_The_Older_Generation!