Friday, 18 July 2014

Guest Post: Where’s my Boaz?

This post draws it's origin from the verse; He who finds  a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from The Lord (Proverbs 18:22), not the other way round as is common in this day. The aim is to encourage my sisters to be content with where God has placed them and STOP chasing men or dressing/behaving a certain way so they could be wife-d.
It amazes me as to how so many people (both men and women) see the Bible as being outdated when it comes to relationships. Women like to quote the famous Biblical relationship of Ruth and Boaz. 

All it takes is one look at Facebook or Twitter and women are screaming out “Where is my Boaz?”  I would like to set the record straight on this one and bring some light to Boaz that most women seem to miss. 

Ruth was not running around town looking for a Boaz. Boaz was a man that respected Ruth, and since he was man he made provisions for her. Boaz was a real man, he saw something  he liked.  He did not run Ruth down and tell her to turn around and twerk something so he could see what she was working with, he did not pressure her to have sex, and he did not disrespect her in any way shape or form. 

Therefore my question to you, women, are you behaving like a Ruth in order to get your Boaz? Or are you looking, chasing, and hunting down every and any man that blinks an eye at you in order to make him into your Boaz?  

In Isaiah 4:1 it states “In that day so few men will be left that seven women will fight for each man, saying, ‘Let us all marry you! We will provide our own food and clothing. Only let us take your name so we won't be mocked as old maids.’" 

I really hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I think this day is the day. This does not mean that all women are wondering around trying to be in a polygamist marriages. But how many women out there are settling for less? 

Let me give you concrete examples just so you can see what I mean. 

How many women that know a man is married, has a girlfriend, or multiple girlfriends, continue trying to be in a relationship with him and convince him that she is the one?

How many women go out and work all day and all night, while a man sits in their house eats up all the food, and does nothing. Just for the sake of saying she has a man. 

How many women are getting older and because they are scared of what other people might say or growing old alone, they settle for any man that comes along?

Now I asked you, to revisit the Bible verse again, and tell me that we are not living in “that day.”  In this day and age, it has become customary and acceptable for women to chase men down, and the man does not have to do any real work. It has actually come to the point where men expect it. 

Instead of women clinging to the traditional values and reading the Bible as to what it actually says about a Godly man. Women just find any man and try to make him “the one.”  

This is faulty thinking, not only is it faulty thinking but it will lead you into an unfulfilled relationship.  If a man truly wants to be with you, then he will. Not only will he be with you, but he is going to try to do everything in his power to show you that you are it. Like Ruth, it is not going to take much effort on your part for this to happen. 

The only thing you have to do is be yourself, get yourself together, and be the type of women a good man wants to be with. If you are confused about what type of woman that is, it is simple. Open up your Bible, and all those things that it says to do. Follow it. This does not mean that you will be perfect, but things such as dressing appropriately, being a good person, staying humble, and preparing yourself to be a Godly wife are included in that list. 

When you truly become a women of God, chasing a man is not going to be your primary agenda.  You will be content in trusting God and content in understanding that the person God has for you will find you. 

Moral of the story: Trust God. Trust Him to be the matchmaker. He knows you better than you know yourself and His choice for you, is better than what you could ever try to chase down on your own.  

This post was written by - Sophia Reed a single mother of one.  She has a Master’s in marriage and family therapy and is working on her PhD.  Sophia loves to combine her education and experiences with her Christian values.  She maintains a blog at 

1 comment:

  1. Would you say that women chasing men is a result of men not acting like men? It seems that Biblically men should be the ones pursuing wives and initiating relationships, but when men fail to lead women tend to try and take the leading roll (case in point: the fall of mankind).