Family background: before you think I am sexist or anything random like that, please bare in mind I am my father's only daughter, my mother's only side kick, my brothers' only sister. In my immediate Maposa clan there are only two girls and a gazillion boys, making me the only other niece and the oldest one for that matter. If you haven't already worked out the Math, that just spells out - Over Protection at it's highest degree! And guess what? I totally understand, in fact, I would be worried if I had it any other way.
Past experience: Once upon a time I had a friend visit me, it was some time around mid-day so I thought it wouldn't be a big deal. Then my dad came back home and found me talking to this friend; firstly he was a guy, secondly he had a car , thirdly I was meant to be studying for my final exams and here I was busy messing around outside the gate with a BOY! I can't even imagine what was going through my dad's mind. Surprisingly enough, he didn't say anything to me but that night my older brother and my mom had a billion questions to answer of something they didn't know about. I got the longest lecture ever from my mom, my dad didn't talk to me for a month or so, though it was an innocent visit I decided NEVER again will I allow such!
That experience made me want to be super transparent to my family. I tell my parents everything. Yes! even about that guy trying to make a move. Crazy huh? The craziest was when I cc-d my dad in an email conversation of a guy who unbearably thought I was his wife yet he had no guts to talk to my father and Yes! Daddy didn't disappoint - he never does! My little brother literally knows every detail of my life (by default). His daily routine - before he goes to school he takes my iPad checks my email and Facebook to see who I was talking to and about what, after school he does the same thing and randomly during the day. Funny enough, I don't mind! I have nothing to hide.
Warning to Future Hubby: We are definitely not going to have a secret affair. It's not possible. Flirting, dirty talk, touching, hugging - none of that. Your visits to my parent's house - our home, will not be unannounced. Please please please before you come to me may you kindly go to my father first - he is not scary, he is unlike most fathers, he is a cool and very quiet guy, ONLY if you have pure motives because he is also a no nonsense guy. How to do that? - Only God can show you!
My male friends - if you want to see me, we will meet at church. I will definitely be there every Sabbath, the whole day even. If you want to come to my house then bring along a whole bunch of girls - avoiding any appearance of evil. In exceptional cases arrangements can be made - please don't use this against me!