Wednesday, 31 December 2014

No Template to Life!

Farewell - 2014! 

If ever there was a year when life just didn't go my way, to the extent that no damage control could turn things around, it was 2014. I started off on a very bad note, I hated being me and I never thought I would actually make it to the end. I had suicidal thoughts at some point, I wanted to just starve myself to death, YES! it was that bad. To make things worse, I vowed I wouldn't share my troubles with anyone, not even my parents, family or friends. I threw tantrums at God, I felt so betrayed and I wasn't willing to accept His will at first. That's when I decided I would start a blog and just write my mind out and God being God, used this very idea to speak to me. The more I shared on the blog, the more I began to accept God's will and understand that whatever God allows to happen in our lives, is always for our good and for His glory. 

As the year progressed, I decided I wouldn't actually make any plans for my life but instead just wait on the Lord, allow him to lead, order and provide, and this was the best decision I have ever made in my life. 

I admit, being home for a year and not having any plans came with it's challenges. I had people asking me 'how school is' or 'when I was going back to school' or 'if I was working somewhere' or 'why I was just sitting on my degree and not actually using it' or 'what plans I had for my life.' I would get frustrated sometimes, it felt as if this wasn't home cause people expected me not to be home. However the answer which always worked with all the questions was that, 'I am waiting on the Lord' and surely I was waiting on the Lord. 

Towards the end of the year, when God had revealed the bigger picture, only then, did I realize why I had to be home this year. In addition to that, I became closer to my family, I met a lot of great people, I made new friends, I restored some broken friendships, I learnt how to cook better and bake. 

Moral of the story: Though the year started with some humbling experiences, overally I can say 2014 was a great year. I really did enjoy myself. The greatest lesson I will carry over to 2015 is that 'there is no template to life.' You can make plans, YES! You can have a 5 paged list worth of New Year's Resolutions with a step by step guide on how you will achieve them BUT bare in mind that God's will, will always prevail and be ready to accept whatever God brings your way. 

Stay faithful!

Tuesday, 23 December 2014

Things you should NEVER say to a Single Girl!

Being that girl, that literally used to relationship hop, the decision to stay happily single and faithfully wait on the Lord, was made possible only through continued prayer. I will not lie to you and say, it is a walk in the park, I sure had my days when I would throw tantrums at God. I would whine and complain about how my then 'crush' never even paid attention to me. In addition to my self inflicted 'misery', the words people would say, like literally vomit out, made the situation worse. So I decided I would write a blog post on the things you should never say to a single sister.  

  1. Honey, aren't you dating anyone?? Don't ask this question. Ask what the Lord is doing in her life. Ask about her future goals. Ask about her family or her job or her Church involvement. Don't act like it is expected for a young woman to be dating. A relationship is a serious thing, not simply something "one does,' regardless of the culture we live in.
  2. Don't be too choosy. For heaven's sake, why not?? We are talking about marriage here. The bar should be raised high! Don't encourage a young woman to lower her standards simply for the sake of having a man.
  3. Don't wait too long, dear. Your clock is ticking. God knows this. And this young woman is trying to wait for His timing and His leadership. Don't tell her to basically forgo God's pace and rush ahead of Him. And do not discourage a single woman by talking about her window of opportunity for bearing children. This can hurt more than you know.
  4. You poor thing. Hey now, I know a young man.... PLEASE don't play matchmaker. From experience, it is terribly awkward and full of pressure. Let God be God. If He can create and bring a mate to Adam in the garden, then He can make paths cross and lead a mate to this girl. Be willing to be used by God. Don't try to be God yourself.
  5. God helps those who help themselves. This is just ridiculous. A statement like that is not Biblical, nor helpful in the long run. Do not assume that just because a woman is waiting for romance, that she is sitting quietly in a corner twiddling her thumbs. More than likely, she is praying and actively waiting. Encourage her in this. Do not demean the beauty of saving herself - mind, body, and heart - for one man.

Moral of the story: Singleness is a delicate season that should be respected and protected, not treated like an illness that needs a shot of nudging or matchmaking

Sunday, 21 December 2014

The Bible: Our Church Outfit Accessory!

The most astonishing thing in the Christian world is that, many of us (myself included) claim to be Christians, Christ-like, followers of Jesus; yet our bibles are mere accessories to our church outfits. Some have the prettiest bibles around, most probably, received as presents 10years ago, but they still look as good as new. Some (not that it's a bad thing) have even transitioned from the hard copy bibles to the ones on our phones, tablets or iPads. Which brings us to a world where, you can never tell whether a person is actually following the verses as the preacher speaks or they are replying to the message of what they will be doing after church. #SaddestReality!

Our lives are so 'busy' and we have become content with skipping our personal bible study and prayer times. We think the few verses we learnt during our 'spiritual high' days will see us through the current trials and temptations. We think we know it all but one thing we don't know, the one thing we choose to ignore, is that; the great enemy of truth, the devil himself, knows his bible very well. 

Allow me to support my claim, for one to counterfeit truth, he has to know what truth is. So in like manner, for us to really know what truth is, we have to keep that connection with Christ, through his word and on our knees. Being a Christian is not a 'what I was before' or a 'what I will be' thing, but rather it's a 'what I am now' thing. Your past righteousness and faithfulness will NEVER give God an excuse to over look your current wrongs.

Moral of the Story: The moment we're separated from God's word we automatically become not only doers but also inventors of sin. So as we enter the new year (starting now), may our bibles graduate from being mere 'accessories to our church outfits' to being instruments of change in our individual lives. 

Remain in the Lord!

Monday, 1 December 2014

Modesty: Is your house locked?

Hey Everybody!!!!!

I hope and pray that the Lord is keeping you all in perfect peace as we near the end of the year. 2014 has been a good year with all its ups and downs but I'm grateful, above all, for the gift of life, family and friends. Remember to thank God for his faithfulness in your life :)

Anyway today I thought I should visit my partially abandoned blog and share an analogy on modesty I recently learnt, so here it goes:

"The reason for dressing modestly and decently is similar to the reason for locking a house. We lock our houses to keep people (intruders) out and protect the valuables inside."

Now the questions I want to leave for you to ponder upon are, 'Is your house locked? Are your valuables fully protected?' Are you dressing first for God's GLORY then for BEAUTY? With the way you dress, can people easily tell that you are a CHRISTIAN?

Stay blessed and remain in the Lord!