Tuesday, 15 September 2015

Can Love REALLY be "at first sight"?

I was reading a very interesting blog written by a good friend. It was on love and relationships - the pain one experiences when they love someone who doesn't love them in the same manner. What caught my attention was the fact that he mentioned the idea of 'love at first sight.'

A lot of times when people are considering a particular person they are interested in, they automatically go from ATTRACTION to LIKE to LOVE.

I believe when it comes to LOVE we have to look at it as a timeline;

The first time you meet a person you have what is called ATTRACTION. That means you are drawn to them. There is something that makes you want to talk to them.

As you are drawn to them and maybe begin to talk to them - you realise they are funny or intelligent or have a vibrant personality. Then you begin to develop INTEREST. Interest is something that says I want to know more about this person. I want to spend more time with them.

After going from ATTRACTION to INTEREST then you go to LIKE. When you like someone, that means you prefer them over someone else. That assumes history, that assumes knowledge. Therefore you have to know someone for you to prefer them.


After LIKE then you may get to the place of LOVE. Love means to choose to give your affections to this person. This is what it means when they say love is not a feeling BUT a principle. Love is NOT blind. Love should never be 'at first sight.' Love is an informed CHOICE you make.


6 comments:

  1. I see you....
    And where this came from

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    1. Hahahahha oh Vimbai, I hope you have taken down notes my girl... As we learn ;)

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  2. I believe this is true. People frequently mistake lust for love.

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    1. Hey Trish. That is so true. Thanks for sharing :)

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  3. So true, love the timeline idea never thought of it that way!
    Attraction at first sight ;)

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    1. If we change our understanding of love, we will sure avoid a lot of heartaches.

      Oh Lord, help us!

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